Only hear from friends when im going out

LegacyUser

ok so im not working so cant afford to go out very often, all my friends are in high paid jobs and be out most weekends, the thing is they never really contact me unless im heading out with them that weekend, i could go for weeks without hearing a word from them if im not drinking its like i have no friends!! any advice would be good?

Get in contact with them?

If they're going out most weekends they probably already feel satisfied with their social calendar. If you're feeling left out because you can't spend as much, you'll need to be the one to encourage them to come out other times. It's not fair on you to not be able to go out as often as them, but that's unavoidable.

Passenger

Why not invite them around to your place for a few beverages? That way you're not under pressure to spend a lot of money, they could even bring their own beer, and you can relax in their company, listen to your own music, etc.

LegacyUser

as i live with my parents i cant really have people over plus they live a good distance away!!! as there all busy mid week with work i cant see them then, the weekend is the only time when socialiseing and as i cant afford to go out i might only hear from them once a month when i can afford to scrape money together for a night out

LegacyUser

how about you call them up and suggest meeting for coffee date an evening during the week, i'm sure theyre not busy every single evening,..and if they are this week, i reckon if you keep suggesting it, they'll eventually do it..and realise friends is not all about going out and getting blotto!! that way when u meet sober, you can explain you'd love to see them more but low funds mean you cant.

Brego888

Do something during the week to meet people that doesn't cost any money.
Take up a new sport or activity.
It'll get you out and socialising without drink and you might make some new friends too.