Should I text my Ex Girlfriend

b456

My ex girlfriend broke up with me just over 2 Weeks ago and we haven't been in contact since. So should I text her to see how she is. I still love her and would like for us to get back together. It wasn't a bad break up, she felt she couldn't give 100% to our relationship. I've seen stuff on the internet about a no contact rule but I don't think I would feel comfortable doing it. Some advice please.

Stavro Mueller

Stay away. I notice she broke up with you and said she couldn't give 100% to the relationship. What has changed in those two weeks? Unless she has changed her mind you're at nothing. I'm sure she didn't decide to break it off out of the blue. It was something she gave some thought to before saying it. Worst case scenario here is that there's now someone else in your place. All you would be doing is giving yourself false hope and stopping yourself from moving on.

Sephiroth_dude

I'd advise you not too text her,leave it be for the moment and let her contact you if she wants,shes already said she cant give you 100%,try and keep yourself busy.I hope this helps you.

ABajaninCork

In a word? NO!!

I would delete her number and remove from FB. Unless you do that, you'll never get a chance to heal. If she wants to contact you, I daresay she might. But it has to come from her.

P. Breathnach

b456 wrote: »

... I still love her and would like for us to get back together....

That's why you should not text her. She broke from you because she could not commit fully to you. You need, for your own sake as well as hers, to accept that.

If, later on, you get to the point where you fully accept that it is over, I personally think it's okay to fire off the occasional (and I do mean occasional, like once or twice a year) "how's it going?" message. Acid test: if she responds "great! I have a new boyfriend and am madly in love with him" and you are not troubled by that, then you are ready for contact.

b456

Thanks for your advice. Is there a possibility that she may have realised she made a mistake and can't contact me in case she feels I won't be interested. How long should I wait. I'm certainly not going to plead with her to be with me. I would like her to know I'm still here. I'm not going to put all my eggs in one basket but I would like to know if I we had any chance at all.

Stavro Mueller

If she realises she has made a mistake, I'd be amazed if she didn't send a text to test the waters. You're in a vulnerable place at the moment and you have to be careful. People say/do things they regret when they're hurting.

ABajaninCork

b456 wrote: »

Thanks for your advice. Is there a possibility that she may have realised she made a mistake and can't contact me in case she feels I won't be interested. How long should I wait. I'm certainly not going to plead with her to be with me. I would like her to know I'm still here. I'm not going to put all my eggs in one basket but I would like to know if I we had any chance at all.

Why do you think she's made a mistake? You're not crediting her with much sense are you? If you ask me, she's shown great maturity in how she's handled the situation. She's realised you're not the one for her, whatever you might think. And she's told you that in the early before you got REALLY hurt.

Honey, it's tough. We've been there. But you have to face facts. It's over.

Sephiroth_dude

cymbaline wrote: »

If she realises she has made a mistake, I'd be amazed if she didn't send a text to test the waters. You're in a vulnerable place at the moment and you have to be careful. People say/do things they regret when they're hurting.

This^^^^

Give her space and yourself space and time.

kat.mac

b456 wrote: »

I would like her to know I'm still here.

She knows where you are, and she will come back to you if that's what she wants. It really is as simple as that, I'm afraid. Don't make contact and look to the future.

Lorna123

Your mind is playing tricks on you OP. If at any stage in the future your ex would like you back nothing will stop her from contacting you. She knows that she was the one who broke up with you so she knows that if she wants you back she has to be the one who makes the first move, not you.

b456

Thanks very much for the advice everyone. I have decided not to text my Ex and start moving forward.

ABajaninCork

Good man! One foot in front of the other, and keep moving.

Good luck to you!