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I can't touch my boyfriend

  • 14-04-2013 12:11am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    As the title explains, it is impossible to touch my boyfriend.

    I love him so much, all I want to do is be intimate with him, but he is extremely ticklish,to the point where, the moment gets lost whenever he reacts to my touch.

    All i want to do is wrap my arms around him, but even this descends into uncontrollable hysterics.

    This just happened moments ago, he just left my house, and I am left bewildered and rejected once again. He's ignoring the situation. He seems to not want to address this. What should we do?


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  • #2
    Roselm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 753 ✭✭✭Roselm


    How long have you been going out? Is he always like this? Could it be nervous laughter rather than tickles per se. Have ye ever had sex/been intimate? Perhaps he's scared of where touches are leading and reacts as he does?!


  • #3
    fungun
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,120 ✭✭✭fungun


    agreed, if you are relaxed you get a lot less ticklish. sounds to me like he is nervous/afraid; i remember an ex who was ticklish also but it did resolve itself when i kinda forced the talk and we sorted it ou.
    you need to force the talk - the unacceptable bit is him not addressing it at all when it is causing problems


  • #4
    blatantrereg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,743 ✭✭✭blatantrereg


    Maybe he just doesn't like being touched. Some people have low thresholds for receiving affection before they feel uncomfortable. Definitely talk about it with him if it makes you sad, but I'd approach it with respect his feelings on the matter, rather than looking to force him to be the way you want.


  • #5
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,737 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    How are you touching him, OP? I am very ticklish if it's a light touch, but have no problem at all if it's a strong, confident one. If you're trying to be gentle so you don't set him off it might be having the opposite effect, so try, for want of a better word, grabbing him next time.


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