Not sure what to do....

LegacyUser

Theres a local thug, very well known in the local community. Hes always hassling people in town, mugging people, robbing houses. In and out of jail. Robbing/ selling metal. Theres a few rape stories going around about him. And the rest of his family would be very similar.

Anywho. As it worked out, I always try to be nice to him (better to be on his side, then be his enemy). And for 3 or 4 years we'd always say a freindly hello when we'd see each other in the street.

Then one day last year, another fairly well known junkie caught me coming out of the credit union, and was trying to mug me. He had a syringe full of blood and was threatening to stick me with it if I didnt hand over my wallet.

Anyway, the chap who I was kinda friendly with and was saying hello to for a few years just happened to walk past and saw what going on and ran over and pulled out a huge meat cleaver and told the guy he'd "butcher your f-king face" if he didnt walk away there and then. The guy was only too happy to be getting away untouched and dropped the syringe and ran for his life.

Needless to say I was absolutely delighted. And I took him in and got him tea and a breakfast, I offered more but it was all he would accept. "what kinda mate would that make me taking money because I told some little knacker to leave you alone" he kept saying.

I couldnt believe what had happened. Its the first decent/good story I have ever heard about this particular guy in my whole life.

Everytime I see him now, he always stops and chats. Which was great, because like I said, Id rather be on his good side then be one of the unfortunates that he torments.

Im probably going to sound like an asshole now for saying this. But the problem is hes getting a bit too friendly. When I see him he wants to stay with me because he has nothing else to do that day, or he wants us to meet up at the weekend to go drinking etc.

To be very honest, even though he helped me out, I just cant help but feel scared that he might turn on me some day if he gets desperate for drug money or is high and just randomly lashes out (as he seems to do)

Listening to him talking gives me the heebeegeebees every time without fail. Every time I talk to him, its a 20 minute conversation about the houses/shops hes robbed that week. People hes cut up, or people hes looking to get and what he's going to do to them when he gets them. And seemingly all it takes to get on his wrong side is to look at him funny.

Anyway, our friendship is seemingly going from strenght to strenght every time I see him and then last monday I met him and he said, "I must call around to your house some day for a cup of tea". I instantly blurted out "yeh, we must do that some day, sounds like a plan".

Every time the door raps now, I panic thinking its him. I know I have no reason to think he would do anything, he's always been 100% polite/courtious to me, but I just cant help but think...... "what if".

I feel like an asshole for even saying all this.

Sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place OP.

If it were me, I'd keep it up, and just be as friendly as possible while not encouraging any meeting-up (I know it can be difficult). If he does call round, tell him you're out of milk and why don't the two of you just go off to a café, your treat. That was at least he wont have a chance to have a look round your house (sounds horribly distrusting, but he's admitted to robbery already).

Catphish

op34569 wrote: »

Theres a local thug, very well known in the local community. Hes always hassling people in town, mugging people, robbing houses. In and out of jail. Robbing/ selling metal. Theres a few rape stories going around about him. And the rest of his family would be very similar.

Anywho. As it worked out, I always try to be nice to him (better to be on his side, then be his enemy). And for 3 or 4 years we'd always say a freindly hello when we'd see each other in the street.

Then one day last year, another fairly well known junkie caught me coming out of the credit union, and was trying to mug me. He had a syringe full of blood and was threatening to stick me with it if I didnt hand over my wallet.

Anyway, the chap who I was kinda friendly with and was saying hello to for a few years just happened to walk past and saw what going on and ran over and pulled out a huge meat cleaver and told the guy he'd "butcher your f-king face" if he didnt walk away there and then. The guy was only too happy to be getting away untouched and dropped the syringe and ran for his life.

Needless to say I was absolutely delighted. And I took him in and got him tea and a breakfast, I offered more but it was all he would accept. "what kinda mate would that make me taking money because I told some little knacker to leave you alone" he kept saying.

I couldnt believe what had happened. Its the first decent/good story I have ever heard about this particular guy in my whole life.

Everytime I see him now, he always stops and chats. Which was great, because like I said, Id rather be on his good side then be one of the unfortunates that he torments.

Im probably going to sound like an asshole now for saying this. But the problem is hes getting a bit too friendly. When I see him he wants to stay with me because he has nothing else to do that day, or he wants us to meet up at the weekend to go drinking etc.

To be very honest, even though he helped me out, I just cant help but feel scared that he might turn on me some day if he gets desperate for drug money or is high and just randomly lashes out (as he seems to do)

Listening to him talking gives me the heebeegeebees every time without fail. Every time I talk to him, its a 20 minute conversation about the houses/shops hes robbed that week. People hes cut up, or people hes looking to get and what he's going to do to them when he gets them. And seemingly all it takes to get on his wrong side is to look at him funny.

Anyway, our friendship is seemingly going from strenght to strenght every time I see him and then last monday I met him and he said, "I must call around to your house some day for a cup of tea". I instantly blurted out "yeh, we must do that some day, sounds like a plan".

Every time the door raps now, I panic thinking its him. I know I have no reason to think he would do anything, he's always been 100% polite/courtious to me, but I just cant help but think...... "what if".

I feel like an asshole for even saying all this.

The guy carries a meat cleaver.. how does this fact and all of the stories of what he does to people, make you think you're an ass hole for being scared of him?!

Distance yourself from this man now, and change your routines so you don't bump into each other. Shop in different shops, go to the CU at a time you wouldn't normally. Just do everything you can to get away from this guy. He's no better than the scum bag with the syringe.

Merkin

What a charming sounding individual....:eek:

I'd echo the advice above insofar as I would not let this man darken my door. Ever. The moment he has visited your house a precedent has been set so avoid that at all costs as he sounds like a. he could be a pest and b. could case the joint to tell all his knacker buddies what's worth stealing!

I'd continue to be as friendly as ever when you see him but just don't let him get any closer/always be on the the way somewhere.

LegacyUser

Catphish wrote: »

The guy carries a meat cleaver.. how does this fact and all of the stories of what he does to people, make you think you're an ass hole for being scared of him?!

Distance yourself from this man now, and change your routines so you don't bump into each other. Shop in different shops, go to the CU at a time you wouldn't normally. Just do everything you can to get away from this guy. He's no better than the scum bag with the syringe.

Well I dont keep a set routine. Its not like he bumps into me every tuesday at 4 whilst shopping. Its just we live in a small town. Hes unemployed, and would spend quite a lot of time going about town hassling people for spare change. So when I go into town, theres always a chance he will be about. I probably should have said that in the OP.

I think that was good advice about the milk and taking him to a cafe. Im definietly going to do that if he turns up someday. Its a good way to deflect away from the house without causing offence or making a fuss.

Thanks

maria34

he sounds a bit like eem ... not right in the head? i mean normally criminals like him wont tell u which houses they robbed last week.

Clandestine

maria34 wrote: »

he sounds a bit like eem ... not right in the head? i mean normally criminals like him wont tell u which houses they robbed last week.

Well, he sounds a dead ringer for anti-social personality disorder.