Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Can you still be friends if there's feelings involved?

  • 11-04-2013 3:29pm
    #1
    lva2013
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11 ✭


    Hi,
    I'm just wondering what people think,if a man and woman can just be friends?In the case that nothing can happen between them but they both have feelings for each other,and have told of how they feel.After this do you think that a friendship can still remain or is there always gonna be an awkwardness there?


Comments

  • #2
    Catari Jaguar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,649 ✭✭✭Catari Jaguar


    It's only awkward if you make it awkward. I think it's important to just be upfront with each other.


  • #3
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    I'd guess that you are thinking of a situation where one or both are married or in a committed relationship. That might be playing with fire, putting both parties in a situation where there is a constant temptation to cheat.

    Be very careful.


  • #4
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    It's completely dependent upon the individual OP. Judging purely from my own experience, I have to admit it's been mixed. I'm a married man who has a disproportionate amount of female friends to male friends.

    One thing I CAN say is that I care about all my friends deeply, sometimes in fact too deeply, and I check myself and have to pull back a bit. Sometimes it goes the other way and I have to ask them to back off a bit.

    I've lost some potentially great friendships when feelings were involved, and sometimes because of those feelings I've had friendships with women that have lasted years.

    It's a massively grey area OP and there is no one definive answer. As PB says you have to tread very carefully if you think either of you might be tempted to act on those feelings. That can cause just a mess and a world of hurt for everybody involved.


  • #5
    lva2013
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11 ✭lva2013


    Thanks for the replies I have always had male friends in the past and I suppose initially I just thought of this as the same,but I actually never felt this way for any of them I suppose it just consumes my thoughts most of the time.When we spoke about it I suppose unintentionally everything just came out and he was saying he's never met anyone like me before and never felt this way about anyone.
    But nothing can ever happen because there's other people involved and I could never hurt anyone like that.
    After we spoke that night we just tried to go back to how we had been before and didn't mention anything else about it,at first we were still in contact a lot as we had been before but that kind of got less and less now it's about once a week.
    I just don't know what's worse whether if we hadn't have talked about it would it have always been bound to come out or get more intense or if we just need not to be in contact and get on with our own lives and forget about each other but ruin the friendship we had I do miss him we were together all the time and told each other everything.


Advertisement