Another Dating Dilemma

shoes34

I have gone on a date with a lovely guy recently and we have been texting, he has asked me on two occasions if I would like to meet again as he had a really nice time and I too had a lovely time and would like to meet him again.

The question I have is do I seem pushy as I texted him to say does a particular date suit, should i have left it up to him to text me or do guys really care about that anymore.

Thanks.

Merkin

No he'll love that. He is keen to meet up again and you asking him to suggest a specific date and time shows you are too. I'm all for cooling the jets at the start and not being too keen but you also need to show some interest! You did the right thing.

Hope it goes really well!

Brego888

Yeah id reiterate what merkin said.

I like it when a girl takes control a bit and is quite assertive. So you can absolute plan some dates.
Men do like the thrill of the chase but this doesn't mean you can't show interest. Just also play it cool, don't show your cards too soon and let him do some of the running!

shoes34

Thanks - he texted back and all is good. Another date arranged. :-)

Merkin

shoes34 wrote: »

Thanks - he texted back and all is good. Another date arranged. :-)

Yay!

sffc

ASKING does a particular date suit is not pushy in any way OP and as you have just found out it shouldn't cause any problem - quite the reverse . Even TELLING him that a certain date would suit is still not pushy . It's just information which should make things easier for everyone .

On a more general note OP I'm 41 so probably a bit older than you . Two observations about twenty something dating today - Firstly you guys are relying on text far too much . Its a great tool to make initial contact but texts are VERY easily misunderstood .Nothing beats hearing someone's voice for swapping emotions as well a information . Secondly you girls need to stop acting so passively and shy when it comes to dating . Your attitude should be least as forthright as your clothes - it's 2013 and there's nothing wrong with wanting to go on a date with someone .

shoes34

We had arranged to meet up this weekend, and then last night he said something came up and could we do it the following weekend. I am not going to push it now, I said that the following weekend was fine and have now made plans to do stuff myself this weekend. But if he cancels next week I think that's its for me. I wouldn't mind but he is the one saying do I want to meet again etc. Oh well dating is never easy!!!

Reesy

shoes34 wrote: »

We had arranged to meet up this weekend, and then last night he said something came up and could we do it the following weekend. I am not going to push it now, I said that the following weekend was fine and have now made plans to do stuff myself this weekend. But if he cancels next week I think that's its for me. I wouldn't mind but he is the one saying do I want to meet again etc. Oh well dating is never easy!!!

Maybe ask him to choose a date next, if he cancels again? And tell him he's not allowed to cancel!

shoes34

Reesy wrote: »

Maybe ask him to choose a date next, if he cancels again? And tell him he's not allowed to cancel!

he said that next weekend would be great to meet up - he suggested it too so that's a good sign and said he would contact me over this weekend. So will see what happens next, I have done all I can do, he knows I'm interested as he is the one who has asked me a few times if I'd like to meet him again etc. and on each occasion he asks I have yes.