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unrequited love...again!

  • 08-04-2013 07:24PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Okay im going to keep this short. basically i cannot stop being attracted/ in love with somebody i can never have. I make great progress for a while and then it goes back the same way over and over. We are in the same circle of friends and college. i feel so stupid and my self esteem is so low. she does not know at all. any advise please.


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  • #2
    PingO_O
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 228 ✭✭PingO_O


    Ask her mate, as long as she's not with someone. Be straight with her and let her know you're interested.

    If you have feelings for her it's going to affect your friendship anyway but you can try sort something out friends wise if she doesn't feel the same way.

    If you want it, go for it, or you'll just torture yourself thinking about it, and don't feel stupid for liking someone.

    I could have taken you the wrong way if by progress you mean you've already shown interest, if that's the case you've gotta move on and distance yourself if she's not reciprocating.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thank you for your reply. By progress I meant i was moving on, but go backwards when we are together a lot. I have told them a good while ago that i liked them but they laughed it off sort off. So I played it down. They are not available and probably wont ever be due to their confused sexuality. So i need to move on. But i cant seem to. I feel really dumb but cant get it out of my head. They are all i want. everything about me has changed. I only ever seem to be happy when she is around.


  • #4
    PingO_O
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 228 ✭✭PingO_O


    Okay, we'll it seems now that this isn't just a healthy crush but that you're dwelling on her a lot more than you should. Don't get me wrong, nothing strange about feeling the way you do but your last sentence is what stood out to me and I've definitely been there mate,this is a clear sign that you've got to sort this out for your own sake.

    Again, don't feel dumb, acknowledge that you need space and time away from this person to let the fog clear and get your head back.

    You're too close to this at the moment, I can't stress enough how much you need to get away and relax and maybe see the relationship between you two in a different light.


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