really confused about guy...

Quiet Girl

ok so i met this guy on a night out a few weeks ago, he had a few drinks on him an asked for my number and he seemed like a great guy, so we have been on two dates an they went ok like when were texting he seems really cold and like he is not really bothered and he is kind of the same when were out. I did ask him about it and he said not to be worrying 'its all good'. I really like this guy and im just really confused as to what he wants. Do you think he is shy or is he not that into me?

Brego888

Maybe that's just his personality.
You have to ask yourself can you put up with that.
But you say you really like him so i guess you just have to accept that's how he is.
Its early days though so give it time. You may well get fed up of it.

P. Breathnach

Quiet Girl wrote: »

... Do you think he is shy or is he not that into me?

It might be either. Or it might be neither. Some people are just slower to open up than others.

As Brego888 suggests, give it time.

Lenmeister

Ya he could be shy, introvert, trying to figure out what you think of him, just be his personality yada yada. Give it some time you only know him a few weeks. Don't dwell on it. You said he's a great guy and you really like him so keep seeing him and see how things go. So no worries!

tomthetank

Sounds to me like he's not that bothered, sorry.

I dated a guy like this for way longer than I should have and it royally messed with my head. He'd reassure me that he "liked me" over and over but his actions were just screaming the opposite, and what's more I turned into an insecure wreck over it.

You'll get there too if you keep seeing him, your feelings grow and his behaviour doesn't change. No guy is worth that. Walk away now and don't turn around unless you see a big, big effort on his part to pursue you and make you feel wanted.

Merkin

He sounds really meh about the whole thing to be honest. You're three dates in, if he was keen he'd be making it obvious, even if his intention is to take things slowly.

Stavro Mueller

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt - for now. If things don't pick up shortly, then it'd be best to finish it. Out of curiosity, who initiates contact? Like if you didn't text him, would he bother texting you? Who organises dates? I always think that if one person is always doing the chasing, then that friendship/relationship is on its way out.

Quiet Girl

Thanks for the advice guys and to answer your question cymbaline, its usually him who texts me first. I think I was worried over nothing because I was with him last night and he seemed a lot more comfortable, maybe he just needed time to get used to me or something. Anyway Im going to give it a chance and see what happens.