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  • 05-04-2013 9:28pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 49


    Hi,

    I met this Italian guy on a night out last Saturday night and we really hit it off.
    Near the end of the night he had to go to get a lift home and before he went he said please add me on facebook. I said I would.
    The next day I did add him on facebook and sent him a message joking about the previous night.
    He messaged me back almost straight away joking as well and we continued like that for a few minutes until he had to go.
    I want to message him again.
    I like him and don't want to wait too long in case he moves on.
    How long do you think I should wait before trying to send him a message again?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 339 ✭✭maria34


    maybe he will contact u? how long time ago was that?

    i have heard italians are great flirts but again i met a shy italian guy once, so u never know.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    Don't put a time limit on it. If you like him, chat for a bit, suggest a coffee. ect. if he is thinking the same, he'll be all for it. the longer you think about these things, the worst case scenarios or the biggest of deals are made of it, and before you know it, you've wasted your chance. Just go with the flow, if he's interested, fair play. If not. Get out there again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 49 kat20


    maybe he will contact u? how long time ago was that?

    It was a week ago. I know that's not long but when you are trying to get to know someone you want to try and keep regular contact.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,457 ✭✭✭Lenmeister


    Ya it's not a big deal, message him back now and go for coffee. No need to stress over it. If he likes you, then he'll be happy to hear from you whenever, except 6am and still drunk. You should have been having coffee on the thursday or something after it. So get to it!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 119 ✭✭Quiet Girl


    With stuff like this, most of the time the other person is thinking exactly the same thing (ie should he text you?)
    I would just go for it, thats my approach to guys and it usually works for me


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 505 ✭✭✭Koptain Liverpool


    Normally I'd wait three days at least before sending another message.
    Well that was what I'd normally when I was 10 years old!

    Seriously, there are no rules about this sort of thing.
    Just message him when you want!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 49 kat20


    I messaged him earlier and he replied to me and again we talked for a few minutes.
    Then he said he was watching a movie and we'd talk soon.
    This is the second time he's had to go after a few minutes conversation.
    Is he trying to brush me off or is he really just busy?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Catphish


    kat20 wrote: »
    I messaged him earlier and he replied to me and again we talked for a few minutes.
    Then he said he was watching a movie and we'd talk soon.
    This is the second time he's had to go after a few minutes conversation.
    Is he trying to brush me off or is he really just busy?
    It wouldn't really make sense if he was trying to brush you off, because it was he that suggested you add him on facebook.

    Can I ask, why is it that after a night out and two chats on facebook you haven't exchanged numbers or arranged a night out? Is there a continuous stream of chat or is there a little awkwardness? Some people prefer the face to face approach, if you catch him on line again, why not ask him out for a coffee or a drink?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    kat20 wrote: »
    I messaged him earlier and he replied to me and again we talked for a few minutes.
    Then he said he was watching a movie and we'd talk soon.
    This is the second time he's had to go after a few minutes conversation.
    Is he trying to brush me off or is he really just busy?

    He is brushing you off or putting you on hold. If he were interested then you would know. Move on op


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 49 kat20


    Catphish wrote: »
    It wouldn't really make sense if he was trying to brush you off, because it was he that suggested you add him on facebook.

    Good point!
    No the conversation isn't awkward it's the same kind of playfulness we had when we met on the night out.
    The reason no meet up hasn't be suggested is because we live more then three hours away from each other.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    kat20 wrote: »
    I messaged him earlier and he replied to me and again we talked for a few minutes.
    Then he said he was watching a movie and we'd talk soon.
    This is the second time he's had to go after a few minutes conversation.
    Is he trying to brush me off or is he really just busy?

    Quite frankly, I'd consider that a brush off. Think about it - if somebody you really want to talk to texts you, you talk to them. We prioritise what's important and imo, it doesn't sound like you're particularly important to him. I wouldn't contact him again.

    I know that's easier said than done but don't you wanna be pursuing a guy who pursues you just as much? Who makes you feel good, who makes you feel like he wants you around etc.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 136 ✭✭a posse ad esse


    Has he initiated any contact with you at all since you've first messaged him? Does he get back to you when he says he will? If not, than he is not as interested as you and I would move on to be honest.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 49 kat20


    Ok thanks everyone for the advice.
    You are right if he doesn't make the time for me he is not worth it.
    I appreciate all your responses!


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