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Mental block?

LegacyUser · 2013-04-04 09:23:36

I'm seeing my bf since mid December and since then we had full sex 3 times. We usually see each other every weekend as he's living in another county. We spend about 3 or 4 nights together every week, once he stayed a full week and we had a fab time. We are great together, we talk, we laugh, going out have fun all would be…

04-04-2013 9:23am

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I'm seeing my bf since mid December and since then we had full sex 3 times. We usually see each other every weekend as he's living in another county. We spend about 3 or 4 nights together every week, once he stayed a full week and we had a fab time. We are great together, we talk, we laugh, going out have fun all would be perfect if there wasn't this little problem. He likes me, he likes spending time with me, says I have a perfect body telling his friends what a great woman I am etc. I don't think it's about me or that he isn't attracted to me.

We are in our 40s and I have had partners with 'performance' problems before so I wasn't too bothered in the beginning. But with my exes I still had a sex life just not the full performance if you know what I mean. With him it's close to nothing, he's very affectionate, he's touching me, kissing me, holding me all night but when nothing happens with him physically he stops and goes to sleep. Yes we have talked about it and it bothers him a lot as it never happened to him before, he says he usually has a high sex drive but feels that there is no sex drive at all at the moment.

I'm beginning to wonder if it has to do with his previous relationship, his ex wanted a baby, he didn't, he's not the kind of guy to settle down with a family. She didin't care much who fathered her child, means when he wasn't about she messed around a good bit with other guys. He told me the story on our first night out because we bumped into his ex and he wanted to leave the pub straight away so I asked him what happened and he told me briefly, not really something you talk about on the first date.

Could this be the issue here? I would appreciate some oppinons because the whole thing is getting to me more and more. I'm unsure what to do I don't want to pressure him in any way I know it's tough for him too, I miss the intimacy though.

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