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Possible to be lonely at 28 ?!

  • 04-04-2013 8:54am
    #1
    frazzlecase
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14 ✭


    Hey ! new to this, so my problem is I am with my partner for 10 years engaged and after building a house together in 2009. I don't have a job and we have no kids, my partner doesn't want any kids yet because we are contemplating going travelling next year for possibly a year or 2 .. but the thing is we built near his family, which was the worst thing I have ever done. it feels like they are constantly in my face and just the other day we picked out a colour for our house left the paint in the hall and when his brother was up spotted the colour on the tin and commented saying it was very dark , THEN his mother called up and said the exact same thing .. now this is just one of the smallest petty things but I wont go into any more ! ... but we're living in the country and I have no job, I don't have my family near as they are all in the UK and im feeling like im getting smaller each and every day .. my fiancé works full time. im beginning to wonder is this feeling normal and any advice on how to over come this!?.. im constantly looking for work but to no avail .. hence the thinking of travelling .. I nfeel like im cracking up :-(


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  • #2
    xLexie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 829 ✭✭✭xLexie


    I think most people who build beside family say the exact same thing. It's the whole living in each others pockets thing.

    Suppose you should talk to your boyfriend, get the family to back off a little bit.


  • #3
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Better forum for your question here frazzlecase

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #4
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,526 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Hi frazzlecase, it is very possible to feel lonely at any age and especially in your situation where you are missing your family and surrounded by your partner's family. Do you live near a town or village where you could join some classes or do some voluntary work? Getting out of the house, meeting new people and being away from his family for a few hours a week would probably help a lot. Meeting new people and feeling more valued or learning something new would also improve your self-confidence and hopefully help with you feeling smaller and smaller as you said. It's not a nice feeling I am sure, I hope you can find something to bring you out of the situation. Good luck :)


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I am about to be in the same boat as you. I'm engaged and my fiance and I are moving to a rural area where I'll be living near his family and all his friends who I barely know (and who aren't really people I would usually hang around with). I'm 32. All my family/friends are in either the UK or Dublin. I keep putting off the move because I'm terrified. I won't be able to work there, because I won't find a job in my line of work, no way. I love my fiance, so I guess I have no choice, but I am very fearful about the future. I especially fear when we start having kids, which will be soon. Then I won't even be able to go to visit my friends in Dublin, which sometimes is all that keeps me sane. My fiance works all day. I have never lived in a small village before and I'm used to big cities. Wish I could offer some advice, hope everything works out for you!!


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