Overly noisy neighbours

tomboylady

I have lived in my current apartment for the past number of years with my neighbours in the house changing from time to time. I have literally never had one issue with anyone until now. The only real rules our landlord has is show respect, and no parties.

A new guy moved in a few months ago. The first few weekends he was here he had a lot of parties, loud music, obnoxious shouting, etc. No big deal really (aside from his appalling taste in music!). Then everything quietened down for a while.

He has a girlfriend (the landlord told me so when the guy moved in). He and his gf have a lot of arguments, a lot of screaming matches, loud enough for the world to hear. Plug in my earphones and drown them out, not a problem.

More recently he has been having a lot of sex. Loud, noisy sex. And it's starting to grate on me. Today for example, I was working from home and I heard him at it this morning when I got up. Then again later in the morning. Then a screaming match mid-afternoon, followed by more sex. And just now again. I was skyping a friend who asked what the moaning noise was, that's how loud it was.

Now, I'm no prude, and it's great that he is having such a good time, but surely there comes a point where enough is enough (for my sanity at least!). Is it weird for me to mention it to the landlord, or would a passive aggressive note shoved under his door be out of line?

IrishEyes19

I think your problem is, you let too much slide already. Like yourself I'm not a serial complainer and the odd party, friends over, ect is fine as long as its not constant and so audible I have to wear music plugs. But from your post you said it has happened a lot of times. Point one.

Then girlfriend arrives and decides to make their arguments public to the extent you have to find other means to drown it out again. Point two.
And now after said arguements you have to endure noisy sex. you see where Im going here. Im not saying its your fault. you sound like a reasonable person who is a good neighbour and just wants to enjoy their living space in fair conditions. I think your neighbour is acting the fool and knows it. Anyone with half a brain cell would know sound travels through apartment walls. He knows he can get away with it.

your best bet is to first approach him, within reason of course. Speak politely and explain the situation and that its just interfering with your lifestyle. If he's anyway decent, he should be apologetic and try to minimise the noise. If not and you are dealing with a arrogant, non caring person, approach the landlord. Your word as a long term, good tennant, should stand above the word of someone who is barely in the grounds 5 minutes. Best of luck

wandatowell

I live in a mid-terraced house. Neighbours on one side have about 3-4 large parties a year. Tbf they are more like gatherings but they still go on till the very early hours and can get loud. I've never complained about them and I never will. They always tell me a few days before if they are having guests over and there's always an invite for me to join them too.

There is mutal respect between both houses and it makes living next door to eachother so much easier.

WittyKitty1

my family are having a similar problem.. except replace a neighbors noisy sex with a noisy dog howling and barking all night long in their garden..

In our situation we have no choice but to approach them directly as it really distrubts everyone's sleep to a point where another neighbor across the way has shouted out his window at 3am to take that fu*king dog in..

In your case, I'd go and speak to the landlord. It's not rude and perhaps he could mention it in a way that doesn't directly identify you.. I'm sure the people on the other side of him can hear it to and probably across the hall if it's as bad as you say..

tomboylady

Thanks for the replies. I think I'll try and chat to the guy myself first and if that doesn't work I'll go to the landlord. I'm a very easy-going person and I don't mind the odd party, but this is just getting ridiculous.

Catphish

tomboylady wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. I think I'll try and chat to the guy myself first and if that doesn't work I'll go to the landlord. I'm a very easy-going person and I don't mind the odd party, but this is just getting ridiculous.

You really should have said something a long time ago, as he doesn't see an issue about any of his behaviour because nobody has said anything to him about it. Talk to him, hopefully he receives it well. If it doesn't go to plan then you'll have to speak to the landlord. Whichever the case, don't let it carry on any longer.

Toots

I wonder did my old next door neighbours move in next to you, OP! They were exactly the same, crazy parties that went on all night, whacky tobaccy fumes wafting from the balcony, epic fights and the inevitable pounding that would follow. At one stage I thought their bed was going to come through the wall into our living room.

Personally, I'd be more inclined to mention it to the landlord as opposed to going round to the guy yourself. Have you ever spoken to him before? Do you know what his demeanor is like in general? If he seems like a nice guy then maybe approach him yourself but if you don't know then the landlord is the way to go in case the guy becomes aggressive. Also a rap on the knuckles from the landlord might be taken more seriously than a word from the neighbour, especially since he's lived there a couple of months at this stage.

amtc

sounds reasonable enough to talk to the landlord -

- I have an apartment over me, and the guy had a really loud party that went on ALL night - no warning. I was distressed as my dad had been in hospital (he wasn't to know that, mind you) and I hadn't slept in days - let it go till 4 am and then called the management company who called the guards. My point was if he'd told me about the party I would've stayed in my parents....final straw was when his friends decided it was funny to put lit cigarettes in beer bottle and post them down the drainpipe and in my letterbox.

He got evicted after that.

Paddy Cow

Be very careful how you approach him op. A friend of mine was having a problem with noisy neighbours in the apartment above him. He knocked on their door and politely explained the situation and asked them if they could keep the noise down. Out of spite, they deliberately made more noise.

If your neighbour is that inconsiderate that he was having parties from the get go, he is most likely an a$$hole who won't take kindly to having his behaviour questioned. Keep a diary of all the times when it is noisy and try and record it if possible. That way if he does take it the wrong way, you can go to the landlord with a clear record of everything he is doing. Are there any other neighbours near you who could back you up?