Confused and don't know what to do!

Alfonzo_ire

Hi all!
Was wondering if I could get some people's perspectives on my situation?

From a fairly young age I'd say around 15 or 16 I have struggled with my sexuality! I think that I am bisexual!
When I was in school I would notice attractive girls but also guys that I thought were attractive to. I thought I was turning gay and with family views instilled in me that this was wrong I never acted on any of the attractions I had to the same sex and suppressed these feelings and tried to be normal like every other guy of my age and be interested in girls only! I thought I would be a let down to my mother if I turned out to be gay as she is not very accepting of this and still isn't to this day. without going into major detail my mother and I have been through a lot together and we are very close, we can talk about absolutely anything except the topic of homosexuality/bisexuality!
I am now 27 and I'm still confused, i have been with a few girls/women in my years but unknown to anyone I have had one or two same sex experiences as well but never have talked about them to anyone for fear of what would be thought of me or said to me, from time to time these feelings have resurfaced when i would meet or see a guy that i found attractive and are more noticeable now than ever! However I still find women physically and sexually attractive also, Hence why I think I'm bisexual!
Can anyone shed some light on this as to how i can come to terms with this in my own self? I'm not a very open guy and I find it difficult to talk to people about this, it has taken me 2 days to try write what I've said here!

Thank you for taking the time to read this I know it's a little long winded and any help,insight or experience you may have to share would be greatly appreciated!

playedalive

Hi!
I know exactly what you're going through. I identify more or less as bisexual. It has definitely been difficult for me coming to terms with my sexuality. Particularly bisexuality is confusing. The amount of times you can find it difficult to understand your feelings is tough. Even to this day, I sometimes doubt whether I really am bisexual. The truth is sexuality is not clear cut for everybody. For me, it's a case of just accepting that I can have different feelings for all different kinds of people. The important thing is to not to be over preoccupied by a certain label. Sadly, we do live in a society that loves labels. It makes it easier to understand everything that's confusing in the world. Labels discern black from white.(I know I'm being deeply philosophical).

I think you should explore your feelings and accept they are there. Come to terms with them. Once you understand them for yourself, you'll feel stronger in yourself. Obviously, you might be concerned that your mother/family/friends won't accept it. Even though it's easier for me to say this, just think/do/act the way you feel comfortable. There's nothing out there to say that you need to tell everybody instantly about your feelings. I found it easier to understand my feelings without my family/friends knowing. When I worked up the courage, I told them. Luckily, they accepted me for me and my sexuality changed nothing. That's the ideal situation. I think you need to be comfortable/understand your sexuality to give you strength.

If you're living in Dublin/Ireland, you might benefit from meeting like minded people? http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056913022

All the best

Edit: If you like, you can send me a private message if you want to talk. I notice your name is Alfonso (Are you Spanish?), I also speak Spanish if you would like to send me a private message.