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Anyone in the same boat? feel lonely

  • 02-04-2013 01:33AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    It was my 21st birthday yesterday and it really opened my eyes to how awful my life is right now I'v no job, very little interaction with women and never even had a proper g/f and i'm just feelin sad and lonely atm..

    I also find that my group of friends has started to get smaller and smaller, I have 1 good mate right now but even at that he is soon to be off to australia.. don't know how I will cope with that.

    I'm just wondering is there any advice out there and I was also wondering if there is anyone in this age group going through anything similar?


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  • #2
    stop animal cruelty
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    Yep l'm 21, no job, never had a bf, very few friends but l'm a female lol. Sucks. Sorry l can't give advice but at least we're not alone :)


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    FizzleSticks
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    LegacyUser
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    The majority of the time being alone doesnt bother me that much. It's more like I just feel like my life is going nowhere and I am really starting to feel like an outcast. I don't drink or smoke but even at that i'm constantly smashed, I have been thinkin of volunteering but I just don't do well with groups, I find it very stressful..


  • #5
    fillefatale
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    I'm 24, still haven't got my foot on the ladder in the career I want, I live at home with a bullying mother and I do feel down sometimes. You're not alone. While I do have friends (though not a large 'group'), I find it helps to get out of the house and go to things I want to go to. For instance, i'm getting involved in a upcoming vintage fair - I've travelled to Dublin for the day a few times to go to talks etc and I've met some interesting people with common interests, that I occasionally meet for coffee. Facebook gives the impression that everyone is living it up all the time, but what facebook is about it giving the best impression of yourself you can give, and you'd want to project a positive image - so don't believe everything you see.

    Even do some volunteering - I know its sounding like a cliché at this point, but you won't make any new acquaintances or even people you can go to the pub with every now and then if you don't put yourself out there.

    Good luck!


  • #6
    anngua
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    Everyone has been lonely at some point. People that say they haven't are probably in denial. It's a phase and what's most important about phases is that they pass. This one will too. As far as girlfriends go, maybe you're not looking in the right direction. DOn't know what's your type but sometimes the right person is just by your side. You've just been looking in the wrong direction. :)


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