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What do people my age actually do with themselves?

  • 30-03-2013 8:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    This issue probably pales in comparison compared to other peoples problems but I felt the need to post anyway as it's actually depressing me a good bit. I'm 21 years old and i've no idea what do be doing with myself in terms of having a social life. My social "fulfillment" depends on heading out once a week with people who I wouldn't even classify as friends. And as soon as they are busy I'm left stuck in the house on the internet (I've not left my house other than to get food since last Monday). I've this idea in my head of the average person my age and it's that they are probably the complete opposite of me - always busy, never stuck for things to do, always at parties or going for a coffee or a drink with their mates. The only times I can recall being happy in the last few years are days where I come home and think "it's been a while since I've been in my bedroom". Most of my time is spent there. It's a pretty pathetic existence and I've no idea how to get out of it.


Comments

  • #2
    Red About Town
    Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭Red About Town


    Get a hobby, join clubs, look for ways to meet new people etc.

    You need to get new friends - people you have more in common with and take it from there.


  • #3
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    Like the previous poster said, you need to put yourself out there to make friends with similar interests. If you're in college there are loads of societies to join? If not just look around!

    I'm a few years older than you but I wouldn't be constantly busy. After work I spend most evenings in on my own. Not everyone has a bustling social life, in fact few do. You may have just built up some idea in your head about what people our age are supposed to be doing? Having said that though, if you actually just want to get out of your room more I would look at joining some sort of club.


  • #4
    Corkgirl210
    Closed Accounts Posts: 329 ✭✭Corkgirl210


    try meetups.com.... everyone there is in the same boat as you.. looking to socialise and meet new people...

    loneliness is when you build walls instead of bridges!!!


  • #5
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Do whatever you want. If you're busy doing what makes you happy, and can crack yourself up and like your own company, friends naturally follow.


  • #6
    checkcheek
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 223 ✭✭checkcheek


    Believe me, I think we always assume the grass is greener on the other side. I'm the same as you. I'm 20 but I always feel like everyone else is going to parties every night and doing this that and the other. But the truth is, very few are like that. Most people are like you and me and go out once/twice a week

    But if you wanna meet people I would suggest you go out more.


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