Online Dating

MeadowLane

Hi All
Can anyone please share any positive online dating experiences.
I have tried it and to be honest I didn't take to anyone remotely interesting.

Anyway I decided to try an "adult" dating site and it was full of odd balls too but also lots of very attractive normal guys, some were married, some were in relationships but every one was there for sex.

I met two guys for coffee, one very positive and one only ok, neither were attached.

I know now I can't stay on the adult site as it has served its purpose and scratched an itch (it had been a while) but I think I am ready to met someone for real.

I am an attractive girl and have a lot offer but I don't get out often so its hard to meet anyone.

If anyone has the name of a normal dating site please share.

IrishEyes19

Have you tried going out and meeting someone, I think I'd find it a lot more daunting and hard to meet someone right online than I would face to face. through text and internet chatting you could easily build up a completely different impression of someone and than find its completely not what you wanted in reality.

MeadowLane

I agree, but I really don't get out much at all. Its hard but after taking a time out for almost a year I feel ready to meet someone, I know its not easy but I want to try. I am a single mom so its very difficult for me to get out.
Its funny that the guys on the adult site came across more normal then the guys on the regular sites.

Brego888

I'm seeing a girl for the past 3 months I meet online.
It works if you're open to it.
And lucky.

knucklehead6

There is a fairly active group of people using OD on boards. We had a social group and hope to be getting a forum this week, when that gets set up i'll make sure you are invited along if you'd like.

any of the 'Adult' dating sites are going to be mostly people just looking for sex.

The likes of Plenty Of Fish, OKCupid Match etc are all more for people looking for relationships..... as well as ONS!

Emme

Try going out and meeting people in the real world. Meetup.com has some good groups, not all focused on dating but some couples do get together from it.

stargazer 68

Emme wrote: »

Try going out and meeting people in the real world. Meetup.com has some good groups, not all focused on dating but some couples do get together from it.

This is a great suggestion - all female nights out so make new friends as well. That being said I have been seeing my OH for over a year now and we met on an online dating site!

You just need your 'picker' to be working fully on the sites believe me. There are a lot of time wasters on there however if you approach it right it can be a lot of fun.

ibarelycare

OP what's the problem with the men you're meeting on the "normal" sites? Might I suggest you try a paid dating site? That way you're bound to find a lot fewer time wasters than on the free ones. In saying that, I found OKCupid great, it was way more mature than PoF and another couple I'd been on. People seemed a lot more into finding a partner than just a bit of fun, and people seemed to put a lot more effort into building a good profile.

FWIW I met my bf on OKC and we're together just over two years. I also met my last bf on a dating site and we were together 18 months. I had so much fun internet dating. Yes I met a lot of weirdos and had bad dates, but I think that's all part of the fun and experience of it

Lone Stone

I met my last girlfriend on plenty of fish, only lasted a few months but if you make an effort to meet some one you can have some banter with it, it can be a good experience. But most of the time i found it a total time waste, grass is always greener with some people.

MikeCork2009

I have found POF to be good, at times, and a complete waste of time at others. I have met some very nice girls on there. However, I have come to the conclusion that online dating is a numbers game. Don't use it as a crutch to talk to women (or men in your case OP). I mean, don't get caught up in protracted messaging/text relationships. Online dating, I think, is great when used as a compliment to "traditional" dating. So use it to find someone but meet up pretty quickly in real life if you think you may have a connection (and normal caveats about being safe re: meeting people of the Internet apply - most us are lovely, but as in real life there are some bad ones). If the same spark is there after meeting great, if not rinse and repeat until you find that special someone :-)

Emme

Dovies wrote: »

This is a great suggestion - all female nights out so make new friends as well.

You definitely make new friends with Meetup but most groups aren't for women only. I would advise the OP or anyone else to join a group for both men and women. You make friends of both genders and sometimes something more will develop from that.