12 Year Age difference

LegacyUser

I'm a 40 year old bloke....girl I like is 28...too big of a gap, do you agree?

As long as she's mature I'd say no problem.

beertons

Yeah, why not. I would.

wirelessdude01

Go for it. I have a gap of 10 and once ye are on the same wave length it is no bother at all.

Zirconia

I think the unofficial rule is half your age plus 7 years is the youngest you should go; seems fine going by this standard.

Goldenlady

Nope, I was 25 when I met my ex and he was 38. If ye get on, have things in common and set ground rules from day 1 (Kids, marriage) then no issues......
Good luck

maydream

Go for it!

CaraMay

The age isnt an issue but the life stages might be. If she wants kids and marriage then let her know your views on them early on. If you are both on the same page then great but if not, dont get involved..

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My wife is 14 years younger than me.:D

Emme

Go for it OP but don't expect any single female friends of your own age to be happy about it.

It's almost the norm now for men over 30 to want to date women at least 10 years younger. A 28 year old may not want the same things as a 40 year old. If she does go for it (many 28 year old women are settling down with older men because they're afraid of being single after 30 and with the attitudes here I don't blame them) but if not you might be better with somebody closer to your own age, say 35 or at least a woman in her 30s.

Pebbles!

Go for it, I'm 23 & my partner is 39. We are living together & couldn't be happier. Do what makes you happy, don't worry about what other people think!

mood

Personally for me it would be too much of an age gap. But it might not be for her. Ask her out. If she say yes great and if she says not at least you tried.

Esoteric_

12 years is about the biggest age gap I'd go for with somebody. Currently seeing someone who is 6 years older than me, and that's going fine.

If you have vastly different lives and are in completely different stages of your life, it could be an issue. But you won't know that unless you try! Nothing to lose, you're both consenting adults at the end of the day.

Bessa

I know a married man of 58 who has himself a mistress of 27. Wife has kicked him out.

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Stavro Mueller

I've seen it happen. Truth is there is no right or wrong answer to your question. It really does depend on what the 28 year old thinks herself.