Checking Ex Boyfriend's Twitter

hazelwut

So I weekly checked my ex boyfriend's twitter and I don't know why I just did that out of curiosity. I have no contact and no feelings no more to him and now I have a happy relationship ever. Is this called cheating? I'm afraid if my boyfriend knows this he will get hurt. I mean, I'm just bored and we even in a long distance relationship, so he won't know this but I love him so much I'm about to move to his country in a month.

Now I stop checking anymore because one time my 2nd ex texted me how I'm doing and replied few and I told my bf this and he seemed to be a bit upset. I explained to him that we just texting few and I didn't reply anymore because my ex seemed to expect more and he understands, even he really trusts me because I do love him. He is my everything and I don't want him to get hurt.

We've been together for 5 months now (few days after breaking up with my ex), and I was with ex for 8 months. Should I bring this up to my bf or? Guys, how will you feel if your girlfriend do this? Is it a big deal to talk about or what?

Thanks everyone x

Esoteric_

Why would you tell your boyfriend that you've been looking at your ex's twitter every week? That's bound to upset him a little!

Can you block people on Twitter? If you can, just block your ex and that's it all over and done with.

ShaShaBear

hazelwut wrote: »

So I weekly checked my ex boyfriend's twitter and I don't know why I just did that out of curiosity. I have no contact and no feelings no more to him and now I have a happy relationship ever. Is this called cheating? I'm afraid if my boyfriend knows this he will get hurt. I mean, I'm just bored and we even in a long distance relationship, so he won't know this but I love him so much I'm about to move to his country in December.

Now I stop checking anymore because one time my ex texted me how I'm doing and replied few and I told my bf this and he seemed to be a bit upset. I explained to him that we just texting few and I didn't reply anymore because my ex seemed to expect more and he understands, even he really trusts me because I do love him. He is my everything and I don't want him to get hurt.

We've been together for a year now (few days after breaking up with my ex), and I was with ex 1,5 years. Should I bring this up to my bf or is this not a big deal to fight about? Guys, how will you feel if your girlfriend do this?

Thanks everyone x

I wouldn't tell him, but I would stop doing it. Block your ex on Twitter. It's not very nice to talk to someone you used to date when you are in a relationship with someone new, especially when you already know it makes him upset. Just stop doing it and then you won't have anything to confess. Telling him that you check your ex's twitter will just make him think that you're guilty about something.

Mr Bump

OP, its not finished somewhere in your mind, why look at his twitter account, Hmmm maybe because you still have feelings, be honest with yourself and ask yourslef why are you really oing this, and dont tell your new boyfriend, if i was him i would flip if you told me that,

hazelwut

THANKS ALL! You guys really help me. x
I have blocked him, but I don't know why I still could check it. Since that I started check him again.
But I stop doing it since 2 days ago.

@Mr Bump, I have no feelings left to him. My ex is a friend in a community I join, so sometimes when a friend's tweet show up in my timeline i see my friend tweeting with him so I open his twitter too to know what are they talking about; doesn't mean I want to know his business. And, there was a problem when we broke up so we have something that we can't fix anymore. There's a strong connection when I'm with my boyfriend now so I don't want to lose him and back to my ex. He was a jerk and flirt with any girls behind me and I couldn't handle it. I want to look forward now.

How do you guys thinking of checking ex's profile? is it a form of cheating, if its just checking without talking each other?

rainbowtrout

hazelwut wrote: »

How do you guys thinking of checking ex's profile? is it a form of cheating, if its just checking without talking each other?

Ask yourself why you feel the need to check it if you are no longer in a relationship with him.

ShaShaBear

rainbowtrout wrote: »

Ask yourself why you feel the need to check it if you are no longer in a relationship with him.

Exactly. If you have no feelings for your ex, and he was a jerk, then why are you still looking? You clearly didn't block him or you wouldn't be able to see him on your feed.

If you need to ask if it is cheating, then for you it probably is. You know your boyfriend would be upset, you know you shouldn't do it but you do it anyway. That, in my book, is cheating.

hazelwut

ShaShaBear wrote: »

Exactly. If you have no feelings for your ex, and he was a jerk, then why are you still looking? You clearly didn't block him or you wouldn't be able to see him on your feed.

If you need to ask if it is cheating, then for you it probably is. You know your boyfriend would be upset, you know you shouldn't do it but you do it anyway. That, in my book, is cheating.

I didn't know my boyfriend would be upset until i told him about my ex texted me and he seemed upset, so I start think he might be upset too if he knows this. I never realized it until I don't do it anymore and I HAVE NO FEELINGS anymore.

I dont talk to my ex, just check his profile, is it called cheating? so should i confess to my boyfriend about this?

rainbowtrout

hazelwut wrote: »

I didn't know my boyfriend would be upset until i told him about my ex texted me and he seemed upset, so I start think he might be upset too if he knows this. I never realized it until I don't do it anymore and I HAVE NO FEELINGS anymore.

I dont talk to my ex, just check his profile, is it called cheating? so should i confess to my boyfriend about this?

It's not cheating as you are not communicating with him, but it comes back to the question: why do you feel the need to check your ex's profile when you are no longer in a relationship with him? He is not part of your life any longer. Why do you need to know what is going on in his life?

hazelwut

You guys are right. I have no feelings anymore to him and I shouldn't worry about this. I stop checking anymore. If I choose my ex, I will talk to him directly more than just checking profile.

And as long as I'm not cheating, we will be just fine. Thank you guys for helping me thinking