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Is it just me?

  • 23-03-2013 4:06am
    #1
    Insidetrack
    Users Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 1 ✭


    Well folks....
    Is it just me... Or why do friends, colleagues and others feel the need or that it is their duty to "set me up" with someone of the opposite sex?


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  • #2
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,158 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    I don't know?

    Are you out or closeted?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #3
    1ZRed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    I take it they don't know you're gay? Happens to everyone if they see you haven't been with anyone for a good while (most likely because you don't want them to see who you're with) they'd do the same to all their mates they thought were straight and even if they knew you were gay they'd still try and set you up with the same sex.

    Happens to everyone, you're not the only one.


  • #4
    Tainor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 92 ✭✭Tainor


    It never changes :D , I'm not sure if you out, but if you are not it tends to be the same even when you are. People will just try and set you up with their other gay friends/people they know. On the bright side you can take it as a sign they care about you, and are trying to help you find someone. :)


  • #5
    coolperson05
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 280 ✭✭coolperson05


    Happens especially when you're out....You get the 'I've a gay friend' and the 'Well you're gay and he is...' so automatically there must be attraction! lol Alas...there's usually not :rolleyes:


  • #6
    ongarboy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,201 ✭✭✭ongarboy


    coolperson05 wrote: »
    Happens especially when you're out....You get the 'I've a gay friend' and the 'Well you're gay and he is...' so automatically there must be attraction! lol Alas...there's usually not :rolleyes:

    But as others said, this is also something straight singletons put up with too. If you are a single guy or girl, friends of yours who know someone of the opposite sex can sometimes try to match make even if what's on offer is totally not your cup of tea.

    OP - if this is bothersome for you, just gently tell your friends to back off if you are not looking for partners right now or if their choices are not to your liking.

    I would take it as a compliment tbh as I'd view it as my friends having good intentions (even if misguided).


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  • #7
    conspiracycat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 80 ✭✭conspiracycat


    Yeah it has happend to me too.

    Im not out to a lot of people as a lesbian yet so its people paring me with guys.

    Its like they see two single people and they just have to be paired together, regardless of what your feelings are on the matter!

    It can be awkward then if the other person thinks there is something there, then I end up feeling bad, even though it wasnt anything to do with me!


  • #8
    TP1969
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭TP1969


    Insidetrack wrote: »
    Well folks....
    Is it just me... Or why do friends, colleagues and others feel the need or that it is their duty to "set me up" with someone of the opposite sex?

    It's unlikely to be a unique experience. Have you thought of asking them why they do that?


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