Right to feel annoyed?

LegacyUser

Hi,

My bf recently moved away for work, he is in Dublin, Im in Limerick. He had to find an apartment and announced that he had found a place and will be moving in with three girls.

Do I have a right to be slightly annoyed about this or should I just be able to say nothing and trust him?

Appreciate opinions

P. Breathnach

Have you any reason not to trust him?

I'd be more concerned if he was moving in with one girl!

LegacyUser

Nothing solid really, I do know he met up with his ex without telling me and has been embarrassingly flirty with a girl on a night out before.

He seems to think its not an issue and it doesnt matter who he moves in with

Toast4532

P. Breathnach wrote: »

Have you any reason not to trust him?

I'd be more concerned if he was moving in with one girl!

+1

If you have no reason not to trust him then you should be happy he has found somewhere, regardless of his housemates' gender.

ElleEm

You have no right to be annoyed at him, he needed a place to live and has found one.

I agree with the other posters, you need to look at your trust issues.

Lorna123

It is natural to be a bit worried I think, but I bet he will be delighted to see you at weekends to get away from them. So this could be the best thing that ever happened.

Irish_Elect_Eng

+1 Nothing better to turn a guy off women like having to live with them.

You will soon begin to seem like the perfect woman as he will only see the nice side of you each weekend while having to put up with all the usual house-mate sh1t from the Fem-aliens that he will be living with during the week.

ruboo

ElleEm wrote: »

You have no right to be annoyed at him, he needed a place to live and has found one.

I agree with the other posters, you need to look at your trust issues.

I also agree with this poster. He needs somewhere to live, and he found one.

December2012

Men are not the complete horn dogs some people assume them to be.

Nothing may happen for a number of reasons, number 1 being he already has a girlfriend! But even if he didn't, it wouldn't be a good idea to hook up with a housemate, and he might not fancy any of them.

Don't be annoyed.

Catari Jaguar

Yea nothing like living with a girl to be put off them. Hang out there and make friends with them.

Mr Bump

OP, sorry dont agree with the rest of the posts, living with 3 girls will cause trouble, its simple guys think with two aparts of there body, and i think you know what i am talking about, its easy for the other posters to say if you trust him whats the issue, if my girlfriend or the moved in with 3 guys and i trusted her i would looose it, you can trust your partner but you cant trust everyone else,
For me I would not agree with him living with 3 girls, you have every right to be annoyed, Dublin is a big place and i am sure he could find a place to stay on his own,

Stavro Mueller

Mr Bump wrote: »

OP, sorry dont agree with the rest of the posts, living with 3 girls will cause trouble, its simple guys think with two aparts of there body, and i think you know what i am talking about, its easy for the other posters to say if you trust him whats the issue, if my girlfriend or the moved in with 3 guys and i trusted her i would looose it, you can trust your partner but you cant trust everyone else,
For me I would not agree with him living with 3 girls, you have every right to be annoyed, Dublin is a big place and i am sure he could find a place to stay on his own,

Out of interest, have you shared houses with people of the opposite sex? Because in my experience, everyone managed to restrain themselves. I even lived in a house where there were 3 girls, 1 guy and nothing even remotely flirty or sexual ever happened.

I assume that because he's house sharing in Dublin, his budget doesn't stretch to a place of his own.

54321Sarah wrote: »

Nothing solid really, I do know he met up with his ex without telling me and has been embarrassingly flirty with a girl on a night out before.

He seems to think its not an issue and it doesn't matter who he moves in with

This update clarifies a lot. I don't blame you for feeling mistrustful but I think you're misdirecting it a bit. If he is prone to this sort of behaviour, it's not his housemates you should be worried about I think. They're not the only girls he's going to be meeting.

54321Sarah

54321Sarah wrote: »

Nothing solid really, I do know he met up with his ex without telling me and has been embarrassingly flirty with a girl on a night out before.

These are things that should be the issue. Not who he lives with.

He's either faithful to you or not. Either way, it's not going to be influenced by who he lives with. To be worried about him straying because he lives with women is the same as saying the only reason he doesn't cheat on you now is that he's not spending enough time with women to manage it.