Dunno what to think of friend anymore!!

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l prob sound like a bitch but here it goes...

Me & "anna" have been friends for the last 6 years, met in secondary school on the first day. She is prob the closet friend l'v ever had, like wise for her.

After secondary school she went to college, l didn't ( didn't know what to do with my life) anyway that was fine, l was a bit scared we might grow apart etc but we stayed in contact.

Anyway whats getting to me is that shes changed, at the start it was as if she was trying to be funny all the time & just trying to have smart comebacks etc. she was never like that, she didn't need to be like that. Then she got a bf, l had no prob with that, was happy for her even tho her bf was a tit, her confidence got higher (good for her) she then started to act like.....l dunno l can't explain! ugh its hard to explain!.... An example l can give would be when we'd text eachother it would be "hey how are you? any news?" where as now with her its "craic?" l know it sounds so stupid but its like theres been this personality transplant!!

Then the other day she had a fight with her cousin, was such a bitch & vicious to her (all sorted now) but l was shocked the way she carried on. Then another time when she was giving out about some lad & was like "ha he thinks hes so great l'd roar the head off him & tell him what l thought of him to his face" wtf...this isn't the girl l knew for the past 6 years...l find it such a turn off & fake.

None of my other friends has changed that much since secondary school, just more confident but with her its like....l know this sounds terrible & awful but its like she thinks shes great & so tough! In the last 8 months we havent really seen each other as much as usual but l'v managed that & tbh l think l perfered not seeing her as much just cause of the new personailty.

We had a fight last weekend, the amount of times she was similing & smerking...just made me think F u. We sorted that fight out & told eachother we loved eachother & all that but now l just don't think l do...l mean l always did love her really , but just since college...l'v seen a different side to her that l don't think l can stand anymore.......

Sorry this is so long & all over the place l'v been meaning for so long to post this & just felt the need to.

Anyone else had or going through this experince?

Advice??

Daisy M

I am not sure what advice anyone can give you. Your friend has changed in a way you don't like, aside from telling her how you feel there is not a lot you can do apart from accepting it or ending the friendship.

I think when you mention her using the term "craic" instead of news, that's just nitpicking, we all pick up new phrases from people we see on a regular basis you are reading too much into that.

If she has become argumentative and obnoxious it may be other people rubbing off on her, maybe she is still finding herself and copting the behaviour/attitude of new friends?

In college, you meet all kinds of people from all over the place. This means that they're going to use different phrases, or mannerisms, or things like that. If you spend almost every day with these people (inside and outside of college), you're going to pick up some of these through osmosis somewhat. It happens with everyone. Instead of worrying about her and overthinking about her, possibly try and focus on your own life and where you want to go.

Friends grow apart. It happens. Don't get bogged down too much by it.

Stavro Mueller

This reminds me a bit of me and my best friend from school. We were best buddies up through secondary school and I thought we'd always be friends. Then after the Leaving Cert we went to different colleges. We stayed in touch for the first couple of years but somewhere along the way we just started to drift apart. There was never any big falling out or bitchy behaviour - just an unspoken mutual understanding that the friendship had run its course. We changed as people as we got older, went to college, met new people, had different experiences etc.

As for your friend, it looks like something similar is happening. It's time for you to pull back from this situation. Accept that she may well have changed as a person - the friend you had in school is now gone. Even if her being bitchy is a temporary blip, it's likely that the pair of you will never be such close friends again. Instead, concentrate on your other friends and on your own life. Don't obsess about this girl.

stop animal cruelty

l think l have excepted that things won't be the same again, its a shame cause we were bought mad about eachother (not in a lesbian way), even use to be on the phone for hours after we got home from school.

l'm gonna concentrate on getting my life sorted, l guess l use to depend on her alot, but not anymore.