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Wedding Abroad- Which day to give the present?

  • 19-03-2013 2:50pm
    #1
    dreamer2009
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 39 ✭


    Hello,

    Another wedding present issue I'm afraid. We are due to attend a wedding in Spain over the summer. The couple are having a civil ceremony here first and then a blessing&wedding party abroad. I &my partner will be attending on both occasions. I was just wondering, which day would be the appropriate day to give the gift? I feel that it would be easier for the couple to give them the present here in Ireland- for depositing it into a bank etc. My Partner is of the opinion that the couple are more focused on the Spanish celebrations& are treating that as the "real wedding" so he does not want to show up there empty handed. Any preferences and/or advice would be great.

    Thanks.


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  • #2
    Vojera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,812 ✭✭✭Vojera


    Etiquette-wise, whether the wedding is at home or abroad, you're supposed to bring the gift to their house (or the bride's mother's house, if you're old fashioned) , either before or shortly after the wedding. It's supposedly not correct to being the gift to the wedding at all. (According to Miss Manners, anyway).

    I think you're right, they'll have enough luggage etc to bring home and you don't want to be the cause of them having to fork out for excess baggage charges. One present would be okay, but what if a few people being gifts to Spain? It all adds up, weight-wise and booking in an extra case can cost a fortune depending on the airline.

    Send it to their house, that way it'll be safe and you don't have to worry about cards falling off or anything getting mislaid.


  • #3
    tatli_lokma
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,332 ✭✭✭tatli_lokma


    I think OP is planning on giving a cash present so weight and luggage isn't really an issue.

    OP - why not just ask them or someone in the bridal party or a family member which they would prefer. On the one hand they would probably have most of the Spanish wedding paid for in advance, but they might still be glad of a few bob while they're over there. On the other hand, they might be glad to get the money at the civil ceremony so that they can budget before travelling to Spain.

    I think the best thing is to just ask.

    I wouldn't be worried about turning up empty handed at the Spanish part either - it's not like you gave no gift. Plenty of people give gifts a few days before or after a wedding. There were a few people at my wedding 'empty handed' as you say, but who gave a gift earlier or the next week. So don't be worried about that at all.


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