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Should I tell my boyfriends parents that he is depressed?

  • 15-03-2013 12:19am
    #1
    awny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 286 ✭✭


    Hi all,

    Just wondering what to do in this situation. My boyfriend is suffering from depression, severe depression from what ive read, and will not go to a doctor or get help. I am so upset and I am finding it really hard to cope as he is very irritable and I feel like he takes a lot of it out on me. Im at my wits end.

    My bfs parents know that he has a tendancy to get depressed but I feel now its time to involve them. he needs help and Im hoping that his parents will sit him down and explain their concerns too. However Im afraid that my boyfriend will resent me for doing this or see it as a breach of trust?

    Please help!


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  • #2
    awny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 286 ✭✭awny


    Vuzuggu wrote: »
    That's an awful situation to be in. I'm sure you have tried but really do try to get your boyfriend to go to a GP to get help. I have Bipolar and only one of my mates know about it. I will be telling other mates soon but wont be telling my family. I just really don't want them to know. If someone told them against my will I would not be happy. Although if my parents were really understanding and supportive it might be a good thing. So basically, in my situation I am not sure whether telling my parents would be good or not so its really not much help.

    I would really try get your boyfriend to go GP/Psychiatrist/Counselor.

    Thanks for the reply. Ive tried loads to get him to go. Printed off info from the net so could see that he needs to go. Nothing! I feel like im just nagging him now at this stage. This is why I want his parents help, I think it would be strength in numbers.


  • #3
    awny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 286 ✭✭awny


    MOD: Could you move this to the after hoyrs in Rec please? Might get few more responses. Thanks!


  • #4
    Riesen_Meal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,580 ✭✭✭✭Riesen_Meal


    awny wrote: »
    MOD: Could you move this to the after hoyrs in Rec please? Might get few more responses. Thanks!

    It's hardly a topic for after hours to be fair, it would be berated....


  • #5
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,316 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    There may be a reason why he hasn't told the parents, so IMO I'd say it'd be a bad idea. Is there any help for depression in a less formal setting? Maybe a group thing? Lots of info and links at http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=75955119 and don't be afraid to ask the same question that you asked here, on that thread. Best of luck.


  • #6
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,316 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    awny wrote: »
    MOD: Could you move this to the after hoyrs in Rec please? Might get few more responses. Thanks!
    In after hours, the sort of answers you'll normally get will involve sex, drink, drastic options, and possibly sheep.


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  • #7
    awny
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 286 ✭✭awny


    ha ha the reason I mentioned after hours is I know that they have a thread on depression. Just wrote on it there, just didnt want to have a duplicate of this thread!


  • #8
    neemish
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,030 ✭✭✭neemish


    awny wrote: »
    MOD: Could you move this to the after hoyrs in Rec please? Might get few more responses. Thanks!


    Personal Issues in Soc would get you plenty of answers that might help more than AH


  • #9
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Everyone has a limit to what they can take, If he doesn't want to lose you he has to at least try at getting better. I think sometimes people with depression grow comfortable with it and are afraid of change.

    As mentioned I would be talking to someone GP, councillor, Shine etc.. there is lots of help out there but he has to want the help. talking to the right people is good as it can help with strategies and coping mechanisms to help with the next step, you can only do your best and I think it's fair to ask your partner to do the same or at least try, as for telling his parents, if it got to the point that you can't cope I would think you would have to, I did and it helped with my circumstance, good luck, Gary.


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