Just wanna move on and get over her..

Willow55

Hey all,

This is my first time posting but a few months back I started a casual relationship with a girl I met on line. After a month of online chat and texting, we trusted each other to meet up and so began a sexual relationship where we would meet in a hotel or out door secluded area almost every week for about 4 months. It was fun, exciting and addictive. The sex was great and we really got on well.

The thing is before we first met she admitted to me that she was never in a relationship before as she really never got around to having proper sex. While she had given oral sex to several fellas before, she never got around to having full sex. She was pretty much a virgin. In some ways this intrigued me even more and after having sex once or twice and she got comfortable with it, things really started to heat up and every time we met, it was great.

I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and admitted to her on several occasions that I really fancied her and had feelings for her while she admitted she found me funny,sex and nice she never really ever showed her true feelings.

About a month a ago, her friend set her up on a date and while she said it went well, she had too many doubts about the guy she saw. Then a week later she admitted she went on a second date with him. While I must admit i was jealous i never said it but came forward again with how I felt about her. She didnt exactly respond in kind. Just said I was sweet

About 2 weeks ago, she text me to say she wanted to cool things off and see how things went with this fella. While I said I respected her decision, I was pretty heart broken. She said that I meant a lot to her but she with held her feelings because she was afraid of being hurt. Not sure why, I would never set out to hurt her. She said she would like to remain in contact and see how Im getting on and that she will never forget what I did for her and the fun we had together. To be honest I didnt know whether to feel angry as well.I felt a bit used in some ways. There was so much I wanted to say to her but refrained from doing so as I didnt want to freak her out too much and ruin any chances of getting back with her. I think about her almost every day but while the pain is bearable I would like to move on as soon as possible. I should also add that I have 2 kids from a previous relationship and I have a feeling that she viewed it as baggage and may have played a part in her deciding to give it a go with this new fella.

Am I mad to be pining after her or do I just simply move on...I guess I would like to hear some opinions and some home truths that may be just help give me that final bit of confidence to move on,forget her and find someone who wants to be with me. I have to fight the temptation everyday not to contact her and while it is hard, I think every day that passes, it does get easier.

Thanks in advance

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