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Help making friends

  • 14-03-2013 12:24am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I feel kinda silly for asking about this in my mid 20's, but I seem to have trouble making friends.

    I've followed the advice usually given on here and I've joined a few clubs. I've been in most of them about a year by now and I know the other members, but more as acquaintances. I only seem to talk to them when its directly related to the club, i.e. on a club activity or meeting.

    I really want to know, how do I become friends with people, not just friendly with them when I see them?
    I have tried to arrange a few nights out, but for various reasons they haven't gone ahead.

    Is there some sort of etiquette for this I'm missing?


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  • #2
    looksee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,430 ✭✭✭✭looksee


    If you figure it out will you let us know? :) Honestly I am not being smart, but it is a very common problem. How do you turn acquaintances into friends? I think it is a matter of catching the moment to suggest two or three go for a drink/coffee/whatever. And then not expecting too much of the situation, and being prepared to be proactive.

    You will probably find you will only make a very few very close friends throughout your life, mostly people will be acquaintances. If you look for the very close friendship you maybe imagine, you may well put people off, or be disappointed.

    I know this is not very useful, but that's the way it is for a lot of people. Hang in there, be sociable, and good luck!


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