feel wrong but know im right

LegacyUser

was at a friends wedding last nite in dublin,drove from sligo to be there with my fiance,everything going very well having a great time,then girlfriend has a huff and wont speak to me out of the blue,after a while i say are you fed up do you want to go home,she says yes,driving home getting the silent treatment for a good hour,turns out shes pissed off at me for saying no to dancing with her but i did dance with one of my female friends who i see mabye one a year at max,now,i danced for ages before that with my girlfriend,and at the time she asked me to dance i was sitting down as i was nackered and just taking a rest,my female friend pulled me off the couch,and she encouraged me at the time to dance with her,now the part im having trouble with is,in the car after,she told me she asked me to dance with her a load of times and go for a smoke,a heap of times,now i dont drink and i know this is not true,and i am being accused of not appreciating her and mistreating her,which led to a massive row,because its not the first incidence of this type of behavior,and i refuse to apologise this time as i have in the past after a long enough row where i end up believing what she says,also i think even if it were true,her reaction which led to us having to leave etc was ott at best,and were not young in our thirtys,

opinions?

Lorna123

I don't like the sound of this..........attention seeking on her part if you ask me.

judgefudge

She sounds like a bit of a drama queen. If she was miffed at you she could have just said it instead of giving you the silent treatment, Jesus. Is she just like that when she's drinking?

Does she ever admit her wrongs or apologise for her behaviour?

hedgehog21

Very attention seeking if you were dancing with her and a tad over jealous.

Abi

As Judgefudge asked, had she been drinking?


Perhaps she doesn't show it on a day to day basis, but it seems she may be a little insecure. You have to talk out your problems until an understanding or comprimise can be reached.

If you're honestly saying that you'd been dancing with her for quite a bit, took a rest, then agreed to get up and dance with a friend, then she's being unreasonable.

She is going to have to understand that these are her issues in that case not yours. And if drink was behind it, then she needs to look at that too.

RossFixxxed

Thirties? Did you mean 13? It is very childish behaviour. Was she drinking and driving? That'd be enough for me to walk tbh.

Try sitting down and talking about it. Be the better person here and reasonably bring it up and discuss it. See what happens? If she can't hold a conversation about issues in the relationship it probably isn't going far.