31 year difference

Bessa

How do you perceive a relationship between a 27 year old single girl and a married 58 year old man.

Brego888

Bessa wrote: »

How do you perceive a relationship between a 27 year old single girl and a married 58 year old man.

Wrong

Celly Smunt

Who gives a fook once their happy.

Scar Tissue

pmcmahon wrote: »

Who gives a fook once their happy.

Did you not see the bit about the man being married?

Lisha

Biggest issue for me is that he is married
That is wrong.
Age difference, meh, that's their own business. Would not like it myself.
But that's their choice.

CaraMay

Bessa wrote: »

How do you perceive a relationship between a 27 year old single girl and a married 58 year old man.

I see it as a waste of her life and an ego boost for him. For girls who want to have kids, it would be good for them to meet their partner around your age with a view to not having kids too old.... He is wasting your time but using you as his mistress. He is stopping you meeting someone who can give you an open and honest relationship. Dump him and tell his wife.

Ickle Magoo

Bessa - could you clarify if this is a personal issue for you or just a general question.

Cheers.

unknowngirl!!

Age, no problem.. Being married, big problem!

Plenty of single people out there. How would you feel if you were married and your husband was with a woman 31 years younger?

Nymeria

To be honest OP, I wouldn't perceive it as a 'relationship' at all, what you describe is an affair. The term relationship infers a level of commitment and honesty that an affair doesn't bring.

joe swanson

bleugh. not good.

Amy33

Dump him but don't tell his wife. Move on with your own life, it's a dead end relationship.

Bessa

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Bessa - could you clarify if this is a personal issue for you or just a general question.

Cheers.

It's a personal issue for a friend, the married man and 27 year old are co-workers. My friend is his wife.

username123

Why is the wife still with him if he is disrespecting her by having an affair with another woman?

The only issue here is the fact that he is married. The other womans age is irrelevant.

CaraMay

Surely it doesn't matter what she his mistress is - the problem is that he has a mistress. Does she know for sure?

Red About Town

username123 wrote: »

Why is the wife still with him if he is disrespecting her by having an affair with another woman?

The only issue here is the fact that he is married. The other womans age is irrelevant.

Many people stay with their husband/wife even though they know they are having an affair. There are various reasons as to why but it is far more common than some might think.

Bessa

CaraMay wrote: »

Surely it doesn't matter what she his mistress is - the problem is that he has a mistress. Does she know for sure?

Yes and he got kicked out of the family home.

daisybelle2008

Bessa wrote: »

Yes and he got kicked out of the family home.

So your friend has dealt with the issue? I am not clear why you are so concerned with the exact age difference and specifically titled a thread about it.

I hope your friend is doing ok. I imagine being there for her would be a priority for those close to her.

Lisha

Hi Bessa,

I'm really sorry your friend is going through this.
Yes, the younger girl is an idiot to go off with an older married man. In the long run its hard to see what she will gain from this affair.
But it was the married man that took the vows. Only he was responsible for keeping his marriage vows. He is the bigger idiot.
Yes you could say the younger girl tempted him but it was his choice to betray his wife.

I hope your friend gets through this ok.
It is very tough on her.

CaraMay

Op I don't understand the issue? Your friend has dealt with it by kicking him out.

What is your issue?

Red About Town

Lisha wrote: »

Hi Bessa,

I'm really sorry your friend is going through this.
Yes, the younger girl is an idiot to go off with an older married man. In the long run its hard to see what she will gain from this affair.
But it was the married man that took the vows. Only he was responsible for keeping his marriage vows. He is the bigger idiot.
Yes you could say the younger girl tempted him but it was his choice to betray his wife.

I hope your friend gets through this ok.
It is very tough on her.

I think it's a bit unfair to call any of them idiots. Sometimes you can't help who you fall for.

Esoteric_

Bessa, I don't get what the issue is here?

Your friend kicked her husband out, so his affair has been dealt with. What more is there to do? :-/

Lisha

Red About Town wrote: »

I think it's a bit unfair to call any of them idiots. Sometimes you can't help who you fall for.

Sorry if I caused offence, but to me anyone that's married is off limits .

username123

Red About Town wrote: »

I think it's a bit unfair to call any of them idiots. Sometimes you can't help who you fall for.

We are not animals, controlled by our lusts and unable to do anything but follow instinct. You may not be able to help who you fall for but you can help acting on that feeling by exerting a bit of self control.

Im not clear on what the OPs issue is. The guy is out of the family home. So - whats the problem?

Ickle Magoo

As the title of the forum suggests, this is a place to get advice on issues posters are personally experiencing.

As this isn't a personal issue for you OP - and your friend appears to have taken steps to address their own issue, I'm locking the thread.