What happens now?

LegacyUser

I've been with a girl for over 5 years and we have a great relationship, never had any major problems and I see her as my best friend.

Everything changed on Thursday night, I kissed another girl. Had a lot to drink but I'm not and haven't use that as an excuse. I'm not really sure why or how it happened but it did. Lasted maybe two minutes but I told my GF on Thursday night/Friday morning. She says she has forgiven me and it will just take time.

Problem is that whenever either of us have time by ourselves I'm just thinking about the situation over and over again in my head and I'm overcome with guilt and worried she will break up with me. My girlfriend is the same, whenever she thinks about it she's going through in her head whether she is being too weak and walkover.

I'm in no way trying to shirk responsibility, I told her 2 hours after it happened because she deserved to know. I don't want to lose her but I'm afraid this rift will become worse and worse.

How's the best way to handle things from here. I don't want to throw away 5 years and beyond for 2 minutes of me being an absolute scumbag. It's my fault, I just want to know how to win her trust back and get us back on track.

P. Breathnach

WhatNext? wrote: »

... My girlfriend is the same, whenever she thinks about it she's going through in her head whether she is being too weak and walkover....

Do you know this, or are you supposing it?

LegacyUser

I know this, she has told me. We have talked about it a lot over the last few days.

Starokan

It's only a few days since it happened, both of you are still processing it. Its bound to take some time before you put it behind you both and some time before she fully trusts you again

justsmile

The only thing you can do is prove to her that she made the right decision by treating her right and not messing up again

dannyc31

look you're human, we all have slip ups. just because you're with your girlfriend 5 years doesnt mean yo're not suppose to be attracted to any other woman ever again. the discipline is that you dont act on these impulses. it can be an exciting thing to be with someone new if we have been with the same person for 5 years or whatever. it shouldnt of happened you lost your discipline for 2mins, just put it down to a moment of weakness.

the fear would be that you find yourself doing it again, then that would be a worry. but if you do feel it was a once off then put it behind you and keep your discipline in future if you want to keep your relationship. the best thing is that you were honest with your girlfriend and she will respect that much at least.

jantheman91

I think that 2 minute mistake has well and truly been paid for. You seem to be incredibly overcome with guilt which is a horrible thing especially when you can't shake it.

Just treat her right and hope she begins to trust you once again.

PS: Don't **** up if you do get lucky enough to get a second chance.