Going out alone

LegacyUser

As per the title. I'm 24, have a relatively small group of friends all of whom are busy a fair bit with girlfriends, especially on Saturday nights. Just wondering what peoples thoughts are of heading out alone? Not to a club but maybe a late bar or something. Can't believe I'm even contemplating it to be honest, but at the moment it beats sitting in

dd972

I've done it and come to no harm, even been on holiday on my own, what judgmental retards don't seem to get is the person over there sat on their own usually has friends, family, relationships and acquaintances like everybody else and they're not on their own 24/7/365 like they assume they are.

Being on your own in the pub in the UK seems much easier than in Ireland where it's frowned upon for some reason.

fits

If you like music you could go to a gig?

I find pubs boring enough already without being on my own .. But love gigs. That's just me though.

Ando's Saggy Bottom

To me it would be a sign of a confident assertive person that could go out on their own and have a good time, but others may not agree. Do it if you want to do it and are comfortable doing it, but don't get into the habit of getting p*ssed alone as that can be a dangerous and lonely place to be.

Legs.Eleven

dd972 wrote: »

I've done it and come to no harm, even been on holiday on my own, what judgmental retards don't seem to get is the person over there sat on their own usually has friends, family, relationships and acquaintances like everybody else and they're not on their own 24/7/365 like they assume they are.

Being on your own in the pub in the UK seems much easier than in Ireland where it's frowned upon for some reason.

Not sure what part of Ireland you're from but I don't believe that's the case at all. When I lived in the centre of Dublin, I'd go out sometimes to have a drink on my own and always got chatting to people...and I'm a woman! Choose your bar carefully (sociable, old style pubs as supposed to massive meat-markety type places) and you'll definitely getting chatting to someone, even more so if you're a smoker. Social lubricant and all that. Nobody will even notice you...people are too worried about themselves, believe me.

dd972

I think a female on their own would get a friendlier response than a male, hard to explain and you'd have to be male to understand it, but a lone male in a pub sometimes elicits responses akin to a scabby,stray dog.

I've been to pubs and gigs on my own and have overheard comments that I know wouldn't happen if I was standing with 2 or 3 others, I live in the UK now and I've noticed particularly in city centre Wetherspoon pubs it's not a big deal to see blokes on their own having a drink whereas in Ireland, even in Dublin, it seems to be known locals who can do this in relaxed circumstances.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Not sure what part of Ireland you're from but I don't believe that's the case at all. When I lived in the centre of Dublin, I'd go out sometimes to have a drink on my own and always got chatting to people...and I'm a woman! Choose your bar carefully (sociable, old style pubs as supposed to massive meat-markety type places) and you'll definitely getting chatting to someone, even more so if you're a smoker. Social lubricant and all that. Nobody will even notice you...people are too worried about themselves, believe me.

It's easier when you'er a woman!

OP - try cinema or theater. I go to the cinema on my own all the time because if I waited for my friends to decide on what to see, if they wanted to come out and so on, I'd never see a movie in my life.

In bars - go when there's something on, like a gig or a football match - where you can talk to the person beside you about what's happening.

dd972

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

OP - try cinema or theater. I go to the cinema on my own all the time because if I waited for my friends to decide on what to see, if they wanted to come out and so on, I'd never see a movie in my life.

good point, I've no patience with the bulls**ters and lightweights who talk the talk and don't walk the walk with stuff like this, I'd sooner get up off my backside. stick my jacket on and get down the cinema or the gig

tomboylady

I go to the cinema or theatre by myself. I'd go to the pub by myself if there was a trad session on, or a match or something. I don't know how I'd feel about just going to a pub on a Saturday night and having a drink by myself.

YumCha

Have you tried http://www.meetup.com/ - it's a great way to go out and do things with an insta-crowd if no one else is available...

Legs.Eleven

It's easier when you'er a woman!

It is if you're looking to get chatted up, which I never was.

It's more common to see men on their own in bars than women....much more common.


Not sure why you say it's easier for women tbh.

paddymayoman

Im 19 and Ive went up to gigs in Dublin on my own a few times at this stage. I would much prefer to go to a gig to hear music I like than go to the same nightclubs to hear the same music every weekend. I do feel people might see me as a loner but I've plenty of friends, it's just I don't feel the need to tag them every time I go to a nightclub or take photos with them every 2 minutes. Basically I stopped giving a sh¡t about what others think!

Wrongway1985

paddymayoman wrote: »

Im 19 and Ive went up to gigs in Dublin on my own a few times at this stage. I would much prefer to go to a gig to hear music I like than go to the same nightclubs to hear the same music every weekend. I do feel people might see me as a loner but I've plenty of friends, it's just I don't feel the need to tag them every time I go to a nightclub or take photos with them every 2 minutes. Basically I stopped giving a sh¡t about what others think!

Similar story go to/been to some gigs alone have friends of course but unfortunately most have a muck taste in music , why should I miss out because I've noone to go with?

Also been to bars and football matches cinema etc alone.

I personally don't judge others who head out alone when I may be with friends so when I go out myself I expect the same.

stop animal cruelty

l'm kinda in the same boat as you OP, all my friends are in college & "can't afford to go out" at the weekends.

l wish l had the balls to go out on my own but l don't think l could do it useless it was somewhere l didn't know alot of people! Where l live & go out in theres alot of small minded people around.

l'll admit it, l saw this guy l know out on his own once (he was the biggest ar*ehole ever!) & me & my friends did slag him, but now l think fair play to him! (still an ar*ehole tho!)

If you do end up going out on you're own or anyone else, fair fecks is all l say!

Holsten

It's really not that big of a deal? Think it's an Irish thing that people think it's weird.

You'll get talking to loads of people, and I find it's easier to pull women if you're on your own as you've a pressure on yourself to talk to others.

LegacyUser

Holsten wrote: »

It's really not that big of a deal? Think it's an Irish thing that people think it's weird.

You'll get talking to loads of people, and I find it's easier to pull women if you're on your own as you've a pressure on yourself to talk to others.

That's the problem though, it might not be frowned upon in other countries but Irish people can be quite judgmental when it comes to seeing people alone. I was thinking the same about women but hmm if I tell them i'm alone the majority will have the first thought that I'm a creep I'd say.

daisey87

I am in the exact same situation. I am 25 and have a group of friends who have started going out less and less. I have often thought about heading out by myself but have never had the courage to do so esp as I am a woman. Where would anyone recommend would be somewhere suitable to go in Dublin?

Holsten

GoingItAlone wrote: »

That's the problem though, it might not be frowned upon in other countries but Irish people can be quite judgmental when it comes to seeing people alone. I was thinking the same about women but hmm if I tell them i'm alone the majority will have the first thought that I'm a creep I'd say.

Who really cares though? You can always just say you've lost your friends or can't find them. Go for it I'd say, I've done it a bunch and like going out with others you can have your good and bad nights. Best nights of my life have been solo though!

1777

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

When I lived in the centre of Dublin, I'd go out sometimes to have a drink on my own and always got chatting to people...and I'm a woman!

Exactly, you're a woman. Were you actually implying it'd be easier if you were male than female? Good joke.

1777

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Weathering

I wouldn't go out on my own in my own town but loads of times when i lived away or was in diff parts of eire id just go out on my own esp when i was new. I just got hammered and had a ball. We irish care too much about what others think,wel i do