Where are all the Nice Ladies??

Armaghmagic

3rd time lucky.....hope ive found the right place to put this thread :rolleyes:

Ok first things first im a guy......second thing is im single and have tried online dating.

What I dont understand is that so many women seem to join POF and such sites because all they meet are creepy old drunk men when they are out.

These women seem really genuine and nice.

I am 26 and do not drink, yet I never seem to meet these women anywhere I go.

So my questions are, where do women like to be chatted up, wjat signs do you give guys to say (in a subtle way) that you are interested, and what things are a must or a no-no to say or do when flirting??

P.S Im not desperate, just intruiged!

ChunkyLover_53

OP is Larry Murphy

Bipolar Joe

Nowhere, you idiot, nice women are dead, I locked them in my basement.

The Barefoot Pizza Thief

Here.

Mick ah

Where are they? On the end of my ****

One of the lads swears they're all in costa coffee on a friday evening.

To be honest, I just let all the beatches come to me. It doesn't work.

ziggy23

I just stare at a man til he comes over...usually works

Ilik Urgee

Just type in Amsterdam,it'll work out cheaper in the long run

Artful_Badger

Nice women are a myth, same as nice men. All those things on dating sites are lies from men and women.

Sure you might like the look of each others lies and be tricked into thinking you found your soul mate. But soon as you both get comfortable with one another to be yourselves she'll see you're just another bar prop and you'll see she's just another control freak.

Skip all that lark, go the a club and pick up a drunk then go out until it ends in tears like everyone else.

Armaghmagic

Wow no romantics at all here then?

Bloody morals mean that I stop myself from picking up a legless drunk at the end of a night :mad:

Artful_Badger

Armaghmagic wrote: »

Wow no romantics at all here then?

Bloody morals mean that I stop myself from picking up a legless drunk at the end of a night :mad:

Well I didnt mean wait in a van across the road. Go in and get drunk with them.

Armaghmagic

Artful_Badger wrote: »

Well I didnt mean wait in a van across the road. Go in and get drunk with them.

Oh, there it is......I don't drink. Always a speed bump somewhere in a plan!!

wendell borton

From a previous AH thread.
http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/

Artful_Badger

Armaghmagic wrote: »

Oh, there it is......I don't drink. Always a speed bump somewhere in a plan!!

That would make it difficult all right. Probably best to go with lies on the internet then. I've heard rumours of people hooking up with women outside of the pub but I've yet to get a first hand account of it.

Autonomous Cowherd

Awwwwww..
Tut Tut. You guys are full of nasty replies...

OP there are plenty of nice people out there of both genders. If I was single I would join clubs or groups in areas that I am interested in - for example, choirs, acting classes, mountaineering etc etc etc...you know the drill....and then hopefully meet nice people that way. At least then you know you have something in common.
Pubs/clubs are just blech!!

Madam_X

Artful_Badger wrote: »

Nice women are a myth, same as nice men.

Of course it's not a myth.

losthorizon

Armaghmagic wrote: »

3rd time lucky.....hope ive found the right place to put this thread :rolleyes:

Ok first things first im a guy......second thing is im single and have tried online dating.

What I dont understand is that so many women seem to join POF and such sites because all they meet are creepy old drunk men when they are out.

These women seem really genuine and nice.

I am 26 and do not drink, yet I never seem to meet these women anywhere I go.

So my questions are, where do women like to be chatted up, wjat signs do you give guys to say (in a subtle way) that you are interested, and what things are a must or a no-no to say or do when flirting??

P.S Im not desperate, just intruiged!

Hi Big Boy! ;)

Runs away quick

Artful_Badger

Madam_X wrote: »

Of course it's not a myth.

It is. People might appear nice from time to time but no human being is inherently nice, they are all to a man/woman selfish bastards. Which is why all long term relationships end up with the people hating each other. Unless they one or both can keep up with the lies.

Armaghmagic

I understand about joining groups......I am in a kickboxing club, cycling club, in college, in Garda Reserve, etc.

Choir does sound good though, a photography club sounds good too. Might try and fit in work, eating and sleep there too!! :-D

Madam_X

Artful_Badger wrote: »

It is. People might appear nice from time to time but no human being is inherently nice, they are all to a man/woman selfish bastards. Which is why all long term relationships end up with the people hating each other. Unless they one or both can keep up with the lies.

Plenty of people are good, nice people - everyone is flawed, but a good, nice person is not non existent. Not all long-term relationships end up with the two people hating each other also.

cuana

Dear Intrigued

Not everyone online dating are in fact old, creepy or drunk seeing as you've obviously joined them and your neither nor has it been my experience either

Not all women are genuine & nice

Yes I love a good flirt and I'm sure other women will agree I'm not sure if there is a sign or signs in a subtle way as such! flirting usually happens when there is a mutual like/chemistry generally laughter, smiling, occasionally touch


My advice don't over think things! you'll just torment yourself

johnayo

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

Nowhere, you idiot, nice women are dead, I locked them in my basement.

Now now, don't be bold. You should know that all women are nice, it's just that some are nicer than others.:cool:

Oranage2

South east France.

kowloon

Artful_Badger wrote: »

It is. People might appear nice from time to time but no human being is inherently nice, they are all to a man/woman selfish bastards. Which is why all long term relationships end up with the people hating each other. Unless they one or both can keep up with the lies.

Nothing like something uplifting on a Saturday afternoon.
I'm going back to the assisted suicide thread, it's more cheerful there.

Artful_Badger

Madam_X wrote: »

Plenty of people are good, nice people - everyone is flawed, but a good, nice person is not non existent. Not all long-term relationships end up with the two people hating each other also.

They are good and nice to an extent but not past their own interests. Which is why when most people really get to know each other they drop the show they put on to hook up and more often than not the reality is that the other person is much more self interested than they appeared at first. Some people can live with that fact and get by but a lot cant. But either way they are never the people they pretend to be at the start, the niceness is just for show.

Artful_Badger

kowloon wrote: »

Nothing like something uplifting on a Saturday afternoon.
I'm going back to the assisted suicide thread, it's more cheerful there.

You should pop back tomorrow, I'm preparing a speech on the meaninglessness of existence and how a child laughter is little more than a pitiful attempt to try and bond with a group of people ignorant enough to doom it to a life of torturous self awareness.

Something to take the edge off the end of the weekend like.

Madam_X

Artful_Badger wrote: »

They are good and nice to an extent but not past their own interests. Which is why when most people really get to know each other they drop the show they put on to hook up and more often than not the reality is that the other person is much more self interested than they appeared at first. Some people can live with that fact and get by but a lot cant. But either way they are never the people they pretend to be at the start, the niceness is just for show.

Well yeh, it's natural to present oneself in the best possible light at the start of a relationship (and it's particularly easy to do so online) but it works both ways - wishful thinking and unreasonable on the part of the other person to expect/assume this person has no flaws.

But saying NOBODY is nice and ALL long-term relationships end up with each person hating each other... is just... well obviously those are just fallacies.

nicowa

Personally, while the attention received in a pub/club was nice/flattering, I was always much too worried/nervous about doing anything beyond smile or say hello - no matter what he followed up with - I'd never go home with a stranger or swap numbers with a stranger. Drink was probably a huge factor (most guys being horrendously drunk).

I met most of my boyfriends (ok 4 - which is most) through friend groups or big meeting places - fan conventions in my case. I wouldn't say that something like a fan meet up/book club etc is an easy way to meet a girlfriend. But widening your circle of people you know (not necessarily friends) would always help.

And in response to some of the above. I wouldn't say there are no nice girls, but even nice girls can be bitchy at times. You could have just met her at a bad moment.

Artful_Badger

Madam_X wrote: »

But saying NOBODY is nice and ALL long-term relationships end up with each person hating each other... is just... well obviously those are just fallacies.

Well I didnt actually mean every single long term relationship end up with the people hating each other, I cant prove that. I said that some people are happy to live with the self centred person that emerges after the initial lies. But the vast majority do end up hating the other person. I dont know one long term couple that still thinks the sun shines out of the others arse. They know they aint the nice person they pretended to be but they are happy to just be with someone.

So if you agree that people embellish their personalties and are very keen to find Mr/Mrs Niceguy/gal then you must know that they are never gonna be this nice person they appear to be. Sure they can be nice and ok, but nice in terms of Mr Niceguy ? No, they wont be, its all just lies to get things moving along because if the other person seen the real them at the beginning it would never match to what they had in mind. So therfore it doesnt exist.

o1s1n

Artful_Badger wrote: »

I dont know one long term couple that still thinks the sun shines out of the others arse. They know they aint the nice person they pretended to be but they are happy to just be with someone.

You seem to be taking your opinion of couples from a group of very unhappy, lonely, unfulfilled people.

I've been with my missus almost ten years and still think the sun shines out of her arse.

sfwcork

Op joined the garda reserve to get laid

Rofl

Madam_X

o1s1n wrote: »

You seem to be taking your opinion of couples from a group of very unhappy, lonely, unfulfilled people.

I've been with my missus almost ten years and still think the sun shines out of her arse.

Yeh, the vast majority end up "hating" the person? News to me. Of course plenty of relationships go stale, so they finish. I know there are couples who are only together because of the kids, but does that mean they "hate" each other? Doubt it.

Artful_Badger

o1s1n wrote: »

You seem to be taking your opinion of couples from a group of very unhappy, lonely, unfulfilled people.

I've been with my missus almost ten years and still think the sun shines out of her arse.

I seem to be but that group is everyone I know, so I'm not really being selective in choosing my examples.

I'm not gonna dispute your claim but are you the same person you were when you first went out with her ? If she seen the real you at the beginning would it have went as it did ? Or did you put on some charm, act the part of prince charming, knock her off her feet and then just revert back to who you were once the job was done ? Even if that still kept both of you interested enough to be happy with each other.

Micky Dolenz

Armaghmagic wrote: »

3rd time lucky.....hope ive found the right place to put this thread :rolleyes:

Afraid not.

Maybe try PI. Read the charter before posting or PM a PI Mod if unclear.

Best of luck.