advise on what to do please?

shy_boy

I have tried this in the dream section but got little advise, I had a big crush on this girl for 5 years while in secondary school 4 years ago, we always talked and had a giggle nw and again , i often texed her from time to time but i never really had the courage to make the big move and i don no y,

iv recently added her on facebook and my heart starts ponding in my chest everytime i see a pic of her,

please dont get me wrong im not a creep in any way , iv got friends en family and im currently in a relationship the last 3 years

I keep having dreams of meeting this girl out of the blue and we eventually kiss and its an amazing feeling and i feel very bad waking up beside my girlfriend after wats just happend in my dream

to be honest if this girl came bk into my life(my heart is ponding jus thinkin about it)id probly stutter and run a mile and it wud be jus like secondary school again ha ha il leave it at that but if some 1 can help me as to y im getting dreams al of a sudden id be very appricative thank u and forgive me for my bad grammer

December2012

What's your ideal situation?

With this girl? Love, sex, friendship.

What about the girl you're with - what is your relationship lacking?

shy_boy

December2012 wrote: »

What's your ideal situation?

With this girl? Love, sex, friendship.

What about the girl you're with - what is your relationship lacking?

I havent seen this girl in 4 years but i would probly say love and relationship is that weird?

the girl im with we have a big connection she pulled me out of a big hole when we first got together

sorry for the delay in replying

December2012

Then it's time to let your current girlfriend be with somebody whose ideal situation is love and marriage with her.

Sort your own head out first, then your current relationship a long time before you move onto anything with the new / old girl.

shy_boy

it be epic if it was just as easy as that, we have a house together and she has a little kid too we have made all these plans for the future aswell and she kind of holds me together to i think


plus i havent seen this other girl in a while(4 years) and i have no idea weather she want me or not she has just finished college by what i read on facebook and im a school reject that is now a farm boy, but i do have big plans for the future

Lorna123

My advice would be to do nothing. This girl is just a fantasy. There is no guarantee that you would even like her now if you met her. You are hanging on past feelings and things have changed for both of you now. Stop daydreaming and appreciate what you have before it's too late and you lose everything.

sbsquarepants

I think you've just got a crush - i wouldn't neccesearily do anything! It happens from time to time, it's very easy to idealise people you don't really know or have to deal with.
Unless that is, you're unhappy with the girl you're with now - there's no point just going through the motions with someone you aren't interested in either.

ibarelycare

I think you seriously need to delete that girl off your FB and concentrate on your own relationship. If you take this "crush" out of the equation, is your relationship with your girlfriend happy? Or are you just with her because you feel like you need her? It sounds like you have a strong set-up with her so do not let things suffer because of an obsession you have with a girl from your past. Forget about the other girl and focus on what you have in your life at the moment.

shy_boy

Thanks for the advice lads ill leave it fester for a while before i make any harsh decisions i think i may be just fixsated on this girl and it will probably pass in time

my relationship now is good at some points but im not sure if im physically attracted to her as much as i was at 1 point or the start of our relationship,