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Can't deal with being dumped by my dream girl

  • 17-02-2013 4:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Even though we were only going out 5 months I've never been happier.

    But on Friday she dropped the bombshell that she doesn't feel there is chemistry between us and that it's not fair to continue seeing each other.

    She has told me before, and I have heard from friends and family that I am everything she's been looking for, and she said the same thing to me berself, she just feels the chemistry thing is too important.

    I'm devastated and even though I have to believe what she says I'm finding it very hard to accept. I've deleted numbers, texts etc and hidden myself away the past few days bar meeting a few friends. I cannot see myself dating others in the near future because this girl was so good for me, and I think I was for her.

    It's probably a case of oneitis and I don't know how best to confront it


Comments

  • #2
    ladysarah
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 155 ✭✭ladysarah


    It is horrible and the only truth is it takes time to heal. It is very hard to get domebody out of your head but in time you will I promise you. Distraction does help. Be good to yourself and I find these thjngs in time do happen for a reason. Good luck and take care.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    If it feels right I wouldn't give up. Move on but keep her in mind. It seems like she is confused but she may just need space.


  • #4
    Cupcake_Crisis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,448 ✭✭✭✭Cupcake_Crisis


    Op, I'm very sorry to hear that. Chemistry is extremely important in a relationship and if it's not there it just can't be faked. I know it feels at the moment like you'll never get over her, but time is a healer. Try keep yourself busy and keep your mind off her. Spend more time with friends or family.


  • #5
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    It was great while it lasted and it is horrible now that it is over. Things change all the time in this world OP and it is difficult to deal with change by times. You are like a fish out of water now because your life has been turned upside down but as soon as you sort yourself out you will feel much better. What you now need is a change of plan. You will need to organize other things in your life to fill the gap because if you do nothing you will only feel worse. It is very hard to turn your life around but you need to start because otherwise you will just keep thinking of your ex and what you used to do together. This girl is no good to you if she doesn't feel the same as you do and there is no point in wishing she did. She has probably thought long and hard about breaking up with you before she actually did it so don't hope for anything from her in the future. Now that you are clear where you stand it will be easier for your to accept it. Don't mull over the past as it is futile. Be glad that things are now clear for you to move on. Best of Luck


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