An ethical dilemma...

SimonTemplar

I'm currently advertising a room to rent in the house I'm living in (just renting a room). I'll be moving out in April.

I'm getting emails from people viewing the ad and some of them are asking about the other tenents.

It is a four bed house. One girl is really sound, the other travels a lot for work so we rarely see her, but the other girl is a disaster and one of the main reasons I'm moving out. She is in her mid 30s but drinks like a fish and almost always comes home drunk, even during the day. She tends to bring home men who are complete scumbags and they often stay the night. They usually end up having loud shouting matches late into the night. She has been known to spend the money we give her for bills on drink which causes them to become overdue.

Our landlord isn't at all involved in the house so we are left to find another tenent. The problem is I have a major ethical problem with telling people it is a nice place to live when I know that girl causes a lot of problems. I don't want to be the cause of someone having an awful time in the house and having to spend more money to move again soon after BUT...we need to find a tenent.

I have a few emails from different people asking what the other tenents are like and I just don't know how to answer them. For this situation only, I wish I was an ruthless uncaring bast*rd, but that's just not me!

It's an ethical dilemma

HondaSami

Why is she still living there, get her to move out.

Whispered

If you complained to the LL and you all threatened to move out then surely he'd have to do something about the girl who is causing trouble.

Dravokivich

What's stopping your landlord from kicking the other woman out?

I don't understand why ye've put up with her.

How is the lease signed up? If your name isn't on it, I'd just say my goodbyes and leave.

wallycharlo

How about showing your problem tenant the road, and looking for someone new?

Do you and the other two share the opinion that she is a general nuisance, and can yee move her on without ending up in some type of wrangle?

AnonoBoy

Just say all the other tenants are 'grand'.

Move out and let the other people handle her.

Don't deal with problems, pass them on to the next generation. It's the Irish way!

Matt_Trakker

Why dont ye just get yer won kicked out?

bluefinger

you should be sainted for putting up with her behaviour.

Jimoslimos

You're doing it wrong. No need to lie, simply twist the truth.

Drunk all the time = Sociable
Brings home men = Friendly
Spends money = Generous
Loud shouting matches = Chatty

AnonoBoy

Jimoslimos wrote: »

You're doing it wrong. No need to lie, simply twist the truth.

Drunk all the time = Sociable
Brings home men = Friendly
Spends money = Generous
Loud shouting matches = Chatty

You're a letting agent I see. :pac:

Anyone

Where does she drink?

MurdyWurdy

I've sort of been in a similar situation. We were living in a flat with a fixed term lease, the landlords lived next door (they had converted their house into a house for them and 2 flats on the side). They were horrific - the house was made of cardboard (this wasn't in Ireland - somewhere were buildings are not made of bricks) and they had the most unruly kids ever. The kids playroom backed on to our bedroom and they had three boys. They would regularly have screaming fits that lasted hours where they called their parents cúnts and the whole house would be shaking from it. My nerves were shot by the end of it.

We had to find new tenants to get out of the lease or stay there another 6 months. I was very careful with the truth with prospective tenants. I would have done anything to get out of there. We told them we were leaving as we had a free house to stay in otherwise we wouldn't be leaving

We saw it up advertised again within three months of us moving out - I felt no guilt!! Do what your conscience tells you

SimonTemplar

I'm moving out to live with my friend so I would be going regardless.

I have mentioned her behaviour to her before, but to be frank, it is difficult to find her in a sober state to have any serious conversation with her. As I said, the LL doesn't give a damn.

bluefinger wrote: »

you should be sainted for putting up with her behaviour.

O
:rolleyes:

Even When I Lie

Find the nearest school / college for the deaf and advertise the room on the noticeboard there.

dr.bollocko

Why is it up to you to find somebody to move in?

dark crystal

SimonTemplar wrote: »

As I said, the LL doesn't give a damn.

'Forget' to pay your rent for the the next month or two and see does he give a damn then...

cuana

Same thing happened to friends of mine they spoke to the Landlord who asked her move out she wasn't pleased about it but we were grateful to the landlord who supported them! They basically kept a record for about a few weeks of incidents that had happened. It was really difficult to do as they were emphatic to her situation & had talked to her about her drinking but they went through hell

SimonTemplar

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Why is it up to you to find somebody to move in?

In every house I've ever viewed, the current tenents organise the replacement when someone moves out.

dr.bollocko

SimonTemplar wrote: »

In every house I've ever viewed, the current tenents organise the replacement when someone moves out.

That sucks.
I always rented individually so dealt with the landlord rather than some poor fella who has to rent it on

ScumLord

SimonTemplar wrote: »

...we need to find a tenent.

No, THEY need to find a tenant, it's not your problem any more. You're supposed to be leaving in disgust. That should involve slamming doors, blocking toilets and such. Not being helpful to a apsenti landlord who's lack of involvement is driving you out of the house.


I wouldn't lie to anyone coming in. It's misleading and might get you sued.

--Kaiser--

Why would you have to find someone else? One months notice, out the door. So long, good luck