I can't believe this, but Valentines.....!

dorkacle

Really didn't think I'd fall victim to the whole 'lonely on valentines' thing, I'm normally very sceptical of the whole 'holiday' to be honest, even though I would normally buy a card, arrange a nite in or out etc. with my partner.

But this is the first time I haven't been either going out with or atleast seeing someone during this time, and its crap....

And tbh it has got to me! I know tomorrow it'll be all over and big deal and all, but I just can't help it!

Anyone else feeling the valentines blues this eve??

wadefuq

Had a brief lonely moment earlier... on the way home from work I realised I forgot to leave somethin out of the freezer for dinner so said I'd pop into superquinn and grab a pizza.. then in the queue with a "pizza for one" for some reason I suddenly felt like everyone was lookin at the loser with no date... I soon copped on and the pizza was nice so... I propably felt less embarrased than the countless men running around town red faced with flowers.. that's what I'm tellin myself anyway

LegacyUser

Yes, me too. I've been single for more Valentine's days than I've been in relationships but I usually ignore it. At least that's what I used to do. The last few of them have made me feel lonely, odd and a little sad. I do feel like that sometimes during the year but it comes to a head on this day.

I don't know what I can say to you only keep your chin up and be glad that the nonsense will be over in a few hours. Let's hope that those of us who are lonely and would love to meet someone won't feel like this next year. xx

dorkacle

I've purposely avoided the shops today just so I didn't have to see all that carry on! Hope your pizza was tasty!

And yea cloth you are right, just 30 mins to go!

I think I'm feeling it worse because I bumped into my ex in town yesterday, and while it was obvious she didn't want to go on about her plans to me, she did say she had plans..... can't explain why it has affected me but it is.
Because she's met someone but I haven't???

Screw it though its just one day in 365

Cerulean Chicken

Valentine's is a crock of sh*te anyway, don't waste your energy thinking about it. I'm engaged and am on my own for it, as I was working all day and my fiance is working until some unearthly hour, so just because someone's in a couple doesn't mean they're snuggled up drinking champagne covered in rose petals! It's just a Thursday, ignore it.

tomboylady

Even when I've been in a relationship Valentine's was always just another day in the year, no big deal. But I will admit that as I was walking home this evening and passing flower sellers, and men carrying bunches of flowers, and dodging loved up couples on the pavements, I did feel a twinge of sadness and/or loneliness. Soon shook that off though!

Cerulean Chicken

tomboylady wrote: »

Even when I've been in a relationship Valentine's was always just another day in the year, no big deal. But I will admit that as I was walking home this evening and passing flower sellers, and men carrying bunches of flowers, and dodging loved up couples on the pavements, I did feel a twinge of sadness and/or loneliness. Soon shook that off though!

Just think how much you've saved, by not being the saps paying over inflated prices for this one silly day of the year!

Ah_Yeah

Valentines would normally make me feel a bit lonely, but this year it was just another day to me.

I watched men running frantically through shops picking up whatever cards and flowers were left, and in all honesty it made me smile. Who wants to be with someone on a day of the year where they are only doing it because they should?

I'd rather wait it out for someone who wants to do it just because

beks101

I know exactly what you mean OP.

I'm of the 'Hallmark Day' school of thought too, can't remember ever in my life taking the day seriously, in or out of a relationship. But I think if you're a bit emotionally fragile or feeling a bit low in general, it's hard not to think about what the day is supposed to be all about and get a little lonely.

Just recognize that for what it is, treat yourself like your own valentine (suitably naff for the day that's in it ) and just sit the feelings out.

This is just one year out of the numerous you have ahead of you where your status could be completely different; things can change in a heartbeat so focus on being as happy as you can in your own skin right now, without having someone in your life. And the rest will follow.

x

amtc

One year (now it is a few years ago - think was 2005) I got three mega expensive bouquets in work - one guy was in UK, one in Kilkenny and one in Australia, and a poem in a ribboned envelope from another guy. I wasn't seeing any of them! But I still got the bus home and had dinner with my parents!

None of these guys worked out, the one I did go out with afterwards now lives abroad.

Today, I was working from home, and my dad called with a bouquet and the Irish Times (cos I like the crossword) and put together a new desk for me, bought me a new doormat, and two bulbs for an overhead light. My best friend got a taxi out of town, with a big bouquet, and taxied back into town for a meeting. Loved being made feel special. But Valentines Day means nothing to me in reality - my birthday is my big deal.

Oh and if you feel down, sit it out. I had Adele and Dido on earlier - it works!

Taltos

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