Can you love more than one person?

bluewhitehoops

Some African man in Africa marries more than one woman.

In the western world, people have the view it impossible to be in love with more than one person.... some will use the argument if you think you are in love with two people then it not love... it lust!


I'm not in love with anybody... i clearly have too much time on my hand and just wonder what you mobs think

Fluorescence

Sure you can. Assuming you're talking about romantic love, it affects people differently. Some people have open hearts that can love many others. Some people can't love at all. In the western world, exclusive love is the norm, so people probably don't consider the possibility of loving more than one person. It happens.

uch

I Love 3, my Wife, my Son and my Daughter,, simple really

Fromthetrees

Monogamy is too cruel a rule man.

aaronjumper

I would say yes. If you can love one person you can love more than one person.

sfwcork

I knew a german dude that lived with two wives

He must have spend a fortune on anadol....and lube

Tom_Cruise

I love Brad Pitt and David Beckham.

ashers22

bluewhitehoops wrote: »

Some African man in Africa marries more than one woman.

In the western world, people have the view it impossible to be in love with more than one person.... some will use the argument if you think you are in love with two people then it not love... it lust!


I'm not in love with anybody... i clearly have too much time on my hand and just wonder what you mobs think

very often polygamous marriages are not about "love", especially outside of western cultures where women are considered possessions, multiple wives increased chances of providing children and wealth and symbolic of status and power. But yes, of course it's possible.

Nick Riviera

I love my brick.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

I'm going to say yes because I know you can.

Lyaiera

Absolutely. Some people only want one loving partner in their life, some people have lives that involve two or more loving partners. It's a cultural notion that we settle with only person so I don't see how the polyamorous could be wrong in living their lives.

sfwcork

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

I love Brad Pitt and David Beckham.

Hows the scientology going tom?

PingO_O

I love lamp. I love carpet

EoghanIRL

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

I love Brad Pitt and David Beckham.

Poor Katie ...

mrkiscool2

It's a tough one ain't it? I would definitely say yes, as most of us experience love 3 times in our life according to research (not including paternal love). However, can one person love two people at the same time? That's where it gets tricky. Not saying that you can't, but surely you would always love one person more than the other.

Not knocking Polygamy at all, just its interesting!

Capt'n Midnight

The English word "love" covers too many different emotions to really have any valid meaning.

Would you sacrifice your life for anyone ? Or one ? Or several ?

Tom_Cruise

Is love just an intense liking for someone?

BBDBB

I saw a film about this


at least the two blokes and the girl seemed to be in love

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uch

Capt'n Midnight wrote: »

The Enrlish word "love" covers too many different emotions to really have any valid meaning.

Would you sacrifice your life for anyone ? Or one ? Or several ?

The Engrish Word "Love" can be cooked very deliciously

1ZRed

EoghanIRL wrote: »

Poor Katie ...

Hardly a surprise to you was it?

Paz-CCFC

Stephen Fry makes a pretty good point about it on QI. You can cheat on your spouse without them knowing, and that's legal, but if you want to marry another person/people and your spouse is okay with it, you can't.

krudler

I love Ben & Jerry equally

Napper Hawkins

bluewhitehoops wrote: »

Some African man in Africa marries more than one woman.

In the western world, people have the view it impossible to be in love with more than one person.... some will use the argument if you think you are in love with two people then it not love... it lust!


I'm not in love with anybody... i clearly have too much time on my hand and just wonder what you mobs think

Well there's your problem.;)

1ZRed

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

Is love just an intense liking for someone?

It's like when you like someone. You only like that person like friend or something.

Then you like like someone. You like like them like more then that, like.

Then you get to when you like like like that person you like liked, but it's a more intense like to justify the extra like.

Love is just an easy way of summing that all that like up into one word.

vicwatson

Nick Riviera wrote: »

I love my brick.

Fed up with brrrriiiiccckk

apintpls

Marriage =/= love

Bruthal

Nick Riviera wrote: »

I love my brick.

You will be fed up of it soon

IM0

of course

but you may run into problems squaring it with your favourite man in the clouds

xLexie

You can love people in different ways, so technically yeah, I guess so.

Pherekydes

I love chicken and sweetcorn soup and my wife. My kids think I love them, poor deluded things. But I don't. I just wish they'd grow up and move out. Then I'll start to love them.

enda1

Monogamy is more down to inheritance and civil structure.
I wouldn't get too hung up over it though OP.

A friend of mine made a great point once, when she said it's strange that it is acceptable to hate many people at once, but not at all to love many people at once.

HondaSami

Yes it's possible to love two people at the same time but you will have to make a choice at some point, how do you decide who you love the most?

enda1

HondaSami wrote: »

Yes it's possible to love two people at the same time but you will have to make a choice at some point, how do you decide who you love the most?

Boob-off, obviously :rolleyes::cool:

pickarooney

/pages TaxAHCruel

mattjack

enda1 wrote: »

Boob-off, obviously :rolleyes::cool:

I dropped my monocle after reading your post , sir.

pickarooney

pickarooney wrote: »

/pages TaxAHCruel

Your raaaang?!

Actually seems I am not needed on this one. The general consensus seems to be "Yes it is possible" mixed with "but it is not for everyone" which is essentially all I would have added to the thread myself.

Except maybe this....

HondaSami wrote: »

Yes it's possible to love two people at the same time but you will have to make a choice at some point, how do you decide who you love the most?

I love many people in my life. My girlfriends, my daugther, my parents and many more and I am not aware of loving any of them "more" or "less" than any other. Such comparative measures simply do not seem sensible or applicable to me.

enda1 wrote: »

Boob-off, obviously :rolleyes::cool:

I prefer them both on

strobe

mrkiscool2 wrote: »

Not saying that you can't, but surely you would always love one person more than the other.

I never really got the concept of loving someone more or less than someone else. I mean, for me, being in love has always been an 'on/off' thing, I was either in love with someone or I wasn't, there was no degrees to it. I always presumed this was the same for everyone else too, but aparrently not?

As to the specific matter of the OP, I see no reason whatsoever why it wouldn't be possible to be in love with more than one person at once.

(I'm making a deliberate distinction between being 'in love' and loving someone there. I think we'll agree it's a different 'sensation', for want of a better word, what you feel for your gf/bf etc compared to what you feel for your parents/friends etc?)