Driving me crazy!

LegacyUser

Hey everyone , Im driving myself crazy the last few days and really dont know what to do . A few months ago I was out with my mates and we came across a group of friends and one of the guys in the group seemed very down so we were chatting away and the night came to an end. I asked him did he want to come back to our house with the rest of us for a house party because we have one every night we are out! he said why not and we got a taxi home , on the way home we were talking about relationships and girls etc I was telling him about my new boyfriend cause we had just got together and couldnt stop talking about him

He was still a little down but I thought he would cheer up when we got back to the house party. We arrived at our house he got out and said he had to go for a pee so dissappeared , i went into the house put on my slippers by that time my housemates and a few friends had arrived. But he was gone! i thought nothing of it really thought he might have just gone home.

So the following day i messaged him to see if he was ok. He messaged back and said yea he was and he just got lost in the estate and went home because he didnt live far from there! we chatted away for a while and he seemed fine. I havent spoken to him since.

Then the other day I heard from my friend that he told one of the lads that we kissed that night! and was a big elaborate story that my boyfriend almost caught us!! Im really hurt as to why he would say this and its eating me up , number one beacuse i genuinely thought he was a nice guy and I felt bad for him that night. and two im terrified my boyfriend will hear it because it would turn eveything upside down all because of his stupid lies!

My friend says to leave it be, but im finding it hard to stop thinking about it! Why would he do this? and can anyone help me as to what to do? sorry its so long to read,

Thanks In advance !

judgefudge

Hey,

He sounds very strange and troubled. I would have no further contact with him. I don't know why he'd lie like that... Maybe looking for attention?

Anyway, if I were you I would tell your boyfriend what happened rather than risk him finding out some other way. Best to let him know what the story is. If he was there that night I'm sure he'll be aware nothing went on and your housemates can presumably back you up that this guy just disappeared?

Anyways, good luck.

AnonoBoy

The dude liked you.

You invited him back to a party so his friends probably thought you were into him and he was going to get off with you.

On the way home he heard you had a boyfriend realised he was not going to get anywhere with you and so made his excuses (He was at your house, why would he go for a pee outdoors?) and disappeared.

His friends obviously asked him in a 'hey hey' kinda way how he got on and the guy made up a story about kissing you to try and not seem like an eejit.

Now he shouldn't have done it but he was already feeling down, saw a bit of a chance with you and then those hopes were dashed so he might have made up the story to make himself feel better.

I don't think 'strange and troubled' is an accurate description based on what you said.

He probably didn't mean for the story to get around, but if you see him definitely tell him to stop telling people you kissed. And do tell your boyfriend in advance of him hearing from someone else.

LegacyUser

thanks so much for your replies! I dont think hes troubled or strange, anonoboy I think you might be right, next time I see him i might just let him know that the story has got back to me and to stop telling people his little story.
Thanks again it actually made me feel alot better about it all im not as angry at him as I was when I found out!

tinkerbell

OP, he IS troubled and strange. He went around blabbing that you had kissed him when you hadn't. Normal people don't do that, that is very weird tbh. You need to tell your boyfriend that this freak is spreading lies about you and you also need to confront the guy and tell him that he's never to speak about you again and make up lies about you. You also need to tell all your friends about the crap that he's been saying too. The guy sounds like a right weirdo and who knows what else he's been saying about you.