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Feeling Rejected. Should I break up with him?

  • 08-02-2013 9:20pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. We have both relocated to Dublin. My boyfriend has started a new college course and I have started a new job. Things have been great, but lately I feel really rejected. I have tried talking to him about this, but things haven't changed. We don't live together but were thinking of doing so from next summer.

    I didn't see him much in January as he was studying and I was traveling for work. I stayed with him for a few nights at the end of January (but we were both out during the day and didn't get home until late each evening).

    Is the following a really rubbish thing to do for a boyfriend?:
    This week, so far he has been spending long days at college with his new college friends -
    On Monday evening: he went for dinner with them (and also to an evening course that only people in that college can do).
    On Tuesday I didn't see him, but he made plans with me for Wednesday night (to go to the cinema with his friends).
    On Wednesday evening at about 6.30, I hadn't heard from him so I gave him a call. He said that there was a match on in the pub instead so he was going to go to that. I was very upset as I had been looking forward to seeing him and he had left me in limbo. (I had also told another friend who wanted to see me that evening that I had already made plans with my boyfriend). I did go over to his house at about 10 PM but I was helping him with his college work and he was too tired to talk.
    On Thursday I suggested we meet up as I was out of work early. He said he was going to a pub quiz with his friends.
    On Friday, I was trying to talk to him again online - and he said he 'had to go' - it turns out he's actually in the cinema which is very near my house :( he never invited me.

    I feel like such a nag lately asking him to make time for me etc, but I feel like I'm talking to a brick wall. I don't know what happened as everything had been so great.

    I feel so sad and rejected. I don't want to feel like this and going out with him is making me feel like this lately. I do love him but I think if he did love me the way he says he does, surely he would make it a priority to make a date with me / want to see me more often. Am I right in thinking I should break up with him? It's not an easy thing to do. Thank you.


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  • #2
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 15,287 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    OP, this would appear to be a repeat of a couple of other threads started in Relationship Issues in the last couple of months.

    Boyfriend likes to go clubbing without me
    Is this odd?

    Lots of advice has been offered in both of those threads, and there really is nothing new to add. The situation hasn't changed. Things aren't different for you, so the advice offered in those other threads still stands.

    I suggest you read back over the other threads and take some of the advice offered.

    In future threads from you on this topic will not be approved.

    Take care,
    Big Bag of Chips


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