Why I Have Decided Against Using Escorts, My Views on PUA, And My Ongoing Struggle

Pug160

OK, first off, escorts: I think it's for the most part a bad idea. It will leave you with an empty wallet and probably an empty soul as well. Even in a situation where the man is very wealthy, I think it's at the very best just a band aid being applied to a much bigger problem which will not go away until it is confronted. This doesn't necessarily mean I'm against escorts, but for fit, able bodied young men who are simply lacking in social ability, it is not the answer.

A couple of years ago I was searching the internet desperately looking for answers and like many other men I came across the world of PUA. (for anybody who's not aware of this acronym, it stands for pick up artist). Everything I was reading seemed to make sense - it felt great - I could become that guy who gets the ladies...finally. I just wasn't doing it right like the naturally gifted men. But I soon realised that beyond the good common sense advice like work outing, dressing better etc it was just a very clever con to get vulnerable men to buy ebooks etc.

For any women out there worried about being manipulated by one of these men I say don't be, because it's extremely unlikely. The reason being is because it's mostly socially inept men who look at this stuff in the first place. Theoretically, a man probably could manipulate women with some of the tactics written about, but only a man who is highly confident could do it - and a man who is highly confident will probably not be reading that stuff as he is almost certainly successful anyway. What the PUA scene is - for the most part - is the blind leading the blind. There are little nuggets of good advice but most of it is unnatural rubbish and should be ignored.

I'm still not completely sure about what to do with my life, but one thing I am sure about is that I'll not be using escorts or any PUA nonsense. The hard truth is that it's much tougher to change your personality than it is your looks. A below average looking man or woman who had a lot of money could pay a plastic surgeon to make them look normal - and as long as they had a decent personality and self esteem, they'd do alright. When your mind is formed as an adult it can take a very long time to change your mindset, and each step is a small one.

Anyway, rant over. I hope this helps someone - myself included.

sam34

op, this forum (and website) is not a blog.

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Zaph

I'll just add that you've already had this post removed from a different forum. That does not mean it's OK to post it somewhere else. If I see it appearing in another forum you will be sitebanned.