What's the right thing to do here?

GarIT

I'm in a really awkward situation and don't know what to do.... Basically a friend was in a crash yesterday and died this morning. The problem is that its not someone I see regularly, It's someone I go on holiday with most years. We go in a group, there's six of us 1 knows but the other three don't, the three who don't know are all girls one that is sick and has been in hospital for a long time (we don't know what's up with her) and the other two girls are both doing their leaving cert. What I'm worried about with them is that they might find out about it closer to the leaving cert so they might be better knowing now, but then it might upset them now anyway.

Do we tell them or leave it and hope they don't find out for a while?

farmchoice

GarIT wrote: »

I'm in a really awkward situation and don't know what to do.... Basically a friend was in a crash yesterday and died this morning. The problem is that its not someone I see regularly, It's someone I go on holiday with most years. We go in a group, there's six of us 1 knows but the other three don't, the three who don't know are all girls one that is sick and has been in hospital for a long time (we don't know what's up with her) and the other two girls are both doing their leaving cert. What I'm worried about with them is that they might find out about it closer to the leaving cert so they might be better knowing now, but then it might upset them now anyway.

Do we tell them or leave it and hope they don't find out for a while?

you tell them as soon as possible, so they can pass on there condolances to the family or attend the funeral if they wish. to not tell them would be wrong in my opinion.

The Big Red Button

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Obviously the only right thing to do here is to tell them. I'm guessing you've probably done so already.

GarIT

Yeah I did. Thanks.

December2012

Well done, it was the right thing to do

swervring

Absolutely. A guy I knew in college died and his friends didn't tell everyone, with the result that a lot of people didnt know - as awful as it is, always better to know the truth. well done OP