Sexy lingerie, Valentines etc

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Being a girl here, I have been bombarded with "seduce your boyfriend with sexy lingerie" ads from pretty much every single shop in town and every single tv/newspaper. Gets worse now since it's Valentine's time.

Guess I was just wondering - are you guys really into the stocks & suspenders/lacey underwear, pole dancing and/or baby-dolls etc?

Is it sexy for you if your girl shows up with this sort of thing for a special night or is it a bit "meh"?

What would be over the top/cheesy?

Thanks a million for your honest replies!!

awec

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cantdecide

I'd be definitely on the "meh" end of the scale. Doesn't do anything for me. It's all about the intimacy, IMO.

baby and crumble

Thing is, OP, everyone is different. But I think a good rule of thumb is that if wearing that stuff makes you feel sexy, it'll probably do the same to your partner.

Both myself and my partner are female, and without putting too fine a point on it, I look and feel remarkably stupid in 'sexy' lingerie. It does NOTHING for my confidence, and the one time I tried it, well... It didn't end well at all. My total lack of confidence shone through and it made both of us incredibly uncomfortable.

For her, though, the opposite is true, so it all depends on the individuals involved. It also depends on your mood, sometimes you're in the mood for sexy, sometimes you're in the mood for sweet. Not saying those two things can't go together, but a basque, stocking and suspenders doesn't say "let's cuddle afterwards". You know?

Peregrinus

As a bloke, I'd be very appreciative of the fact that my partner had gone to all the effort, and presented herself and her body in a way that said she wanted to be physically attractive to me, even if she had to invoke a few fairly cheesy stereotypes along the way.

It's not that the sight of my partner in erotic lingerie would inflame my lustful desires. (The sight of my partner in a plain t-shirt can do that.) But her willingness to use her body in that way to signal an appetite for sex with me would certainly do the trick.

But that would only work if she was, in fact, physically confident. If she's plainly uncomfortable in erotic lingerie, that actually sends a fairly mixed signal.

raze_them_all_

Yes, dress up.

corkgsxr

I like it. But you have to know there taste too. Wrong lingerie much less effective.

Right stuff, love it

Dravokivich

Over the top would be anything with fluffy stuff.

Stockings/Suspenders would be a winner with most blokes I'd of thought.

The only thing to consider is whether or not the preference would be for corset or nightie.

Hardonraging

They are just in the way, plain and simple get them off ye, however ! you may want to consult with this chap before hand, it maybe his bag, or it may not be his bag ...

Real Life

Do it

IK09

cantdecide wrote: »

I'd be definitely on the "meh" end of the scale. Doesn't do anything for me. It's all about the intimacy, IMO.

Please take note that this answer got zero "thanks"

Cant believe this is even a debate, dress up, right now

awec

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Noffles

Yes, bang it all on... don't tell him... surprise is even better...

BoooM!

IK09

awec wrote: »

I can. There is a variety of tastes among men. Not all men are in to the lingerie thing.

Agreed, but i would eat a sock, if a woman who got dressed up for her man was, "kicked out of bed" for wear lingerie.

Sugarlumps

Stockings/Suspenders and your in for a devilish night....unless he's an altar boy?

awec

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jaffacakesyum

IK09 wrote: »

Agreed, but i would eat a sock, if a woman who got dressed up for her man was, "kicked out of bed" for wear lingerie.

Nobody's suggesting any man would. But, different strokes for different folks. Not everybody goes mad for lingerie.

So it depends on the bf OP. I'd say the majority of men would appreciate the effort and would enjoy it. Definite big +1 though on your own comfort and confidence. Most decent men wouldn't enjoy seeing their partner clearly self conscious and uncomfortable in sexy lingerie.

IK09

who said anything about making someone self conscious or uncomfortable?

Liam McPoyle

IK09 wrote: »

who said anything about making someone self conscious or uncomfortable?

Some women would likely feel self conscious/uncomfortable in certain types of lingerie,I would have thought that was pretty obvious.

Anyway,op,my girl friend loves dressing up in stockings and what not and according to her,it makes her feel super sensual and confident so I reckon go for what ever makes you feel good because believe me,it's a massive turn on for me,and I'm sure the majority of men,to see their partner exuding sexual confidence!

jaffacakesyum

IK09 wrote: »

who said anything about making someone self conscious or uncomfortable?

These lovely folks

baby and crumble wrote: »

Both myself and my partner are female, and without putting too fine a point on it, I look and feel remarkably stupid in 'sexy' lingerie. It does NOTHING for my confidence, and the one time I tried it, well... It didn't end well at all. My total lack of confidence shone through and it made both of us incredibly uncomfortable.

Peregrinus wrote: »

But that would only work if she was, in fact, physically confident. If she's plainly uncomfortable in erotic lingerie, that actually sends a fairly mixed signal.

IK09

IK09 wrote: »

Please take note that this answer got zero "thanks"

Cant believe this is even a debate, dress up, right now

I thanked it.

A lot of people find skin-on-skin intimacy to be more erotic than the contrivance of 'sexy' outfits. There's a world of difference between pretty underwear and the so-called sexy, but mostly cheap looking Valentines offerings.

Red nylon *shudder*

JimmyCrackCorn

There is no need for a debate.

Yes Yes Yes....


Men are visual animals. You will probably have a fair idea what your partner likes and if not you can ask or hint.

Galwayguy35

One of my exes liked to wear lingerie and while personally I never found it a turn on I always told her it was nice as I knew she put a lot of effort into going out and searching for what she thought was the perfect outfit.

I know it is a big turn on for some men but not everyone.