The fear and pressure of losing it all.

If ever there was a first world problem, this is a good example.. This evening, I realised after months that all of my stress is caused by trying to hold onto what I've been lucky enough to be given in the last while. After a fight with my gf that I realise now started because of it.

Anyone else feel like they stress constantly because of what they might lose? I'm gonna make a conscious effort to be thankful instead of fearful.

sbsquarepants

Can't say that i do, but then again i've always been lucky enough to have fúck all worth stressing over. My advice is to get cheaper, nastier shít and stop caring about it so much.

donegal_road

your health is your wealth as long as we're here, our material possessions will end up in a land-fill site years after we're gone

IM0

thought this was gonna be drink related tbh

mikom

donegal_road wrote: »

your health is your wealth as long as we're here, our material possessions will end up in a land-fill site years after we're gone

I agree.

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1ZRed

I'm annoyed I won't be able to put my sim into my iPad once I upgrade to a nano sim, so I'll need two different sims and I'll need to pay a data plan on each one afterwards.

There's the pinnacle of first world problems right there.

I was told recently to stop trying to look into the future and make decisions for what was "best", in my view, for both of us based on that. I realised I shouldn't be doing it and I was only sabotaging my relationship needlessly when things were going great the way they were.

I didn't need to complicate it like that, I just needed to step back and enjoy it. And if something were to come up, to tackle it then instead planning ahead to a problem that might come up that didn't even exist yet.

Basically I had to cop on and learn to ride it while it lasts and enjoy it if things are good, and not fuk up my chances by complicating things needlessly.

It was simple enough advice I got, but good advice I got in fairness.

BillyMitchel

1ZRed wrote: »

Basically I had to cop on and learn to ride it.

Are you not an expert at this already?!

Dyr

i reckon with irish males there is often a self destructive streak that wants to pish it all up against the wall, I have no idea why.

smash

Thankfully I don't suffer from male pattern baldness.

1ZRed

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Are you not an expert at this already?!

The vain bastard in me would love to say so but I'd hate to be a total expert so young and not get to keep learning along the way.

Half the fun of it, isn't it?

orestes

I honestly think that some people should be forced to be homeless and broke in a foreign country for a week to realise how trivial most of the stuff they worry about really is, and to learn some sympathy for others.

1ZRed

Wait, this is about losing actual things?


Feck sake my post is looking fairly ghey now

leonidas83

orestes wrote: »

I honestly think that some people should be forced to be homeless and broke in a foreign country for a week to realise how trivial most of the stuff they worry about really is, and to learn some sympathy for others.

Its human nature, within a few months they would be back to living with their usual attitude. You'd have to send them there for a couple of years

seenitall

The OP's issue doesn't sound so much as a first world problem, more as an existential crisis of some kind.

Working in a huge, international fast-food chain in Dublin Airport when I was young, I learned what first world problems really are; the epitome of which was a fat, middle-aged looking, leathery-skinned-from-too-much-tanning Irish mother who threw an almighty tantrum when informed that we had run out of Smarties for Smarties McFlurrys (oops! now you know which chain I'm talking about :pac:).

Tantrum. Over. An Ice-Cream.

It is people like these, who constituted a goodly portion of the customer base*, that give the first world problems a bad rep, and rightly so.

*(Oh the stories I could tell you about working there...:D)

Just enjoy what you have, OP, behave considerately, live sensibly and be thankful that you don't belong to the half of the world's population who live in poverty, abject poverty or worse. I wouldn't have thought that would be too difficult for you considering your location.

And realise you can't control everything.

1ZRed

1ZRed wrote: »

Wait, this is about losing actual things?


Feck sake my post is looking fairly ghey now

Na, I mean things like job, relationship, social circle, lifestyle.. Like a few days ago, I nearly didn't get a new visa because I only had one page left in the passport. First thing I think about? Oh fuk. My work will definitely fire me if I can't be the country for a while and then that'd be the job/lifestyle/nice apartment gone. The idea of losing it is what stresses me.

Canis Lupus

Deleted User wrote: »

Na, I mean things like job, relationship, social circle, lifestyle.. Like a few days ago, I nearly didn't get a new visa because I only had one page left in the passport. First thing I think about? Oh fuk. My work will definitely fire me if I can't be the country for a while and then that'd be the job/lifestyle/nice apartment gone. The idea of losing it is what stresses me.

That's a reasonable worry.