Second date at the weekend and no plans made

LegacyUser

Hi, I met up with a guy I had known for a month two weekends ago and we got on really well. Since then he texts me every day or every second day. I mentioned about meeting up this weekend as it is his birthday and I like him, so figured if I don't ask I'll never know. He said on Monday a drink would be great. He texted me Wednesday and last night and I just said to him if he wanted to celebrate his birthday the weekend with his friends that was grand as he never mentioned about meeting up. He said we'd make plans today.
I suppose main thing I have an issue with is the fact that he didn't bring up about meeting up until I mentioned it. If he said straight out he wanted to go out with his friends that would be no problem but I get the feeling he's just using me as a back up if nothing comes up for him to do at the weekend.
Anytime he says he'll text he does, we get on really well but if I'm being had I'd prefer to know now than a few more dates down the line. Obviously he might not even know his plans for his birthday but it's just a big contrast to the first time we met up where he was very forthcoming about making arrangments.

CaraMay

For a second date, you are really over thinking this. Personally, I wouldnt have asked him out on his birthday weekend but you have and he has said yes. chances are he is being pulling into 2 directions as his friends will want him to go out with them as well. You have given him the option to back out and he said no so see if he makes plans for tomorrow with you.

Lux23

Just suggest next weekend instead, if he doesn't seem bothered then move on I guess.

Merkin

He hasn't actually suggested a 2nd date has he? It's been you that is suggesting you should meet up and he hasn't taken the bait unfortunately. And it's now two weeks since your first date? I'd be giving him the slip tbh, it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere and he may just be keeping you on the subs bench unfortunately. In any event I don't think it's that realistic planning to meet up with someone you don't really know so well on their birthday weekend. If you want send him a final friendly text saying for him to get in touch next week when he fancies meeting up again but I think this is a non-starter unfortunately. Sorry for not sugar-coating it

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies. Looks like I shouldn't have mentioned meting up this weekend at all. I'll see what he says later and I'll tell him we can leave the weekend and if he wants to meet up again let me know. Just confused because this is one of the only times a guy has texted when he says he would and he has made most of the contact so I just presumed he had some interest in me. Guess he would have asked to meet up last weekend if he had.

CaraMay

Just let him contact you and make plans for yourself for tomorrow night. No point putting all your eggs in the same basket.

nowyouresix

OP: sorry if I sound a bit off centre here, but if a guy says he'll make plans with you later about the forthcoming weekend...on a Friday...then I'd take it as a brush off. What makes him think you WILL be available at such short notice?? Personally I'd expect better.
Good luck.