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I feel cursed sometimes

  • 31-01-2013 4:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everyone,
    well as the title suggest, at times I feel like I have a relationship hex on me.

    It seems like everytime I get together with someone, when it comes time to move onto the next stage, they get cold feet and panic, the relationship ends but then months later then wind up in a serious relationship with someone else.

    For example, my last relationship ended because I wanted children and my partner of many years did not. Then he had a baby with his new partner.
    Another guy I dated for a while, when it came time to make it "official", he backed off. A year later he was married to someone else (all I wanted was to stop seeing other people after 4 months!)
    The next guy I dated, it was a LDR which wasn't really a relationship as it never took off and fizzled out as every time I tried to schedule a date, he blew me off. A couple of months after I last heard from him, I heard from mutual friends that he was with someone and she was expecting.
    There are loads of examples where I'm with someone, they back off and then get involved in a very serious way with the next person.

    And here I am again, in another long term relationship where the discussion about marriage and kids has come up after almost 2 years together. And there he is, panicking and saying he isn't sure about what he wants for the future. History repeating itself.

    We're not kids. All these guys are in their 30s and 40s, and I am a similar age.
    I don't push for things or make ultimatums. I'm confident and kind and really good to the people I care about. I'm honest and faithful. I have a job and friends and hobbies so I'm not overly dependent.

    But no matter what type I end up with, however good I seem to have it in a relationship, when it comes to getting serious then it's "wheeeeeee, off he goes". Usually to get married and/or have kids with the person he meets in the next 3 months.


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  • #2
    skyfall2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 409 ✭✭skyfall2012


    Hi OP, Could it be the type of guy you go for, they all sound similar. Or have any of them given you some clues as to what might be going wrong?


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