'Couples who follow traditional gender roles have sex more often'

Bad Santa

Or so says a new study out today/yesterday:

Better sex life linked to division of housework - U.S. study

Couples wanting to improve their sex lives may want to look at how they divide household chores, because men and women who follow traditional roles have sex more often than other couples, researchers said on Wednesday.

In a study that analyzed the roles of 4,500 heterosexual married couples in the United States, researchers found that when women handled the cooking, cleaning and shopping, and men did yard work and car maintenance, they had more active sex lives.

"The results show that gender still organizes quite a bit of everyday life in marriage" Julie Brines, a University of Washington (UW) associate professor of sociology and a co-author of the study, said in a statement.

"In particular, it seems that the gender identities husbands and wives express through the chores they do also help structure sexual behavior."

The findings, which are published in the American Sociological Review journal, showed that couples with traditional roles at home had sex 1.6 times more per month than those in which the husband did all the traditionally female work.

But Brines and her colleagues said the findings should not be used by men as an excuse not to help out at home.

"Men who refuse to help around the house could increase conflict in their marriage and lower their wives' marital satisfaction" said lead author Sabino Kornrich, a former UW graduate student who is now a researcher at the Juan March Institute in Madrid.

Although the data used in the study was collected from 1992 to 1994, which is the most recent survey looking into sexual frequency among married couples, Brines said it is unlikely that sex in the marital home has changed much since then.

"Marriage today isn't what it was 30 or 40 years ago, but there are some things that remain important" she said. "Sex and housework are still key aspects of sharing a life, and both are related to marital satisfaction and how spouses express their gender identity."

Reuters.com

I think there could be some truth to this as the more housework I do, the less sex I get. Course, I live alone so that could be a factor. Plus I hate housework anyway. You make the beds, wash the dishes, do the laundry and then six months later, you have to do it all over again.

dodderangler

Noticed that myself
Think il leave them dishes

Nodin

'Woman, wheres me tay' = More sex.....

Nope, can't see it meself.

Ruudi_Mentari

A man seeks the man in a woman, and a woman seeks the woman in a man

Another (*cough*) "study" a few years back suggested that married/co-habiting couples, sleeping in the same bed together, and with a television set in the room, had less sex than couples not living together at all.

Sweet Baby Jesus but who comes up with these ideas for questions, who agrees to participate, and who has the balls to even ask them?

Canis Lupus

Ruudi_Mentari wrote: »

A man seeks the man in a woman, and a woman seeks the woman in a man

That sounds like a line out of a chick-lite book.

So the woman has alot of sex with the husband to get him to do more work.. And then stops.
Hardly worth a report.

im invisible

Women, know your place!

im invisible

Deleted User wrote: »

Sweet Baby Jesus but who comes up with these ideas for questions, who agrees to participate, and who has the balls to even ask them?

I don't have any money, but what I do have is a particular set of skills, skills i have aquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you

Ruudi_Mentari

Canis Lupus wrote: »

That sounds like a line out of a chick-lite book.

or some hippy rhetoric. Spiritual..

true connection because that's what love is, and the feeling better be mutual

Sounds even more like a chick-lit now, s**t.

Joey the lips

If i left the house in bits till the wife came home i would get no sex..... So either way i am fcuked... so to speak

smash

What about single people who like to sleep around?

Qualitymark

Self-reported. So it may just be that couples who share housework equally are more honest when they're asked how much sex they have.</spoilsport>

smash

1.6 times more per month... Is the .6 a blowjob?

Annasopra

Ruudi_Mentari wrote: »

A man seeks the man in a woman, and a woman seeks the woman in a man

You should write a book

conorhal

Ruudi_Mentari wrote: »

A man seeks the man in a woman, and a woman seeks the woman in a man

I really don't know what kind of wierd porn you've been looking at, but it's time to take a break buddy and step outside.....

Hourglass Shrugged

I imagine that sex would be very rare if you were in a relationship with a radical feminist.

Hardonraging

I find it works out much better to have a few on the go, and have them visit on a rota system,. where by they can clean when they arrive, jut small things, like folding clothes, washing a few dishes, maybe clean the bathroom .. and when she's done, give her some tlc .. and away you go ..

seamus

Wasn't there another "study" released during the week which said that men who do more housework have sex more often?

You need to control for attitude really in this. I suspect that families which adhere to traditional gender roles, the woman is more likely to feel duty-bound to engage in sex whether she wants to or not, and/or the man is more likely to feel he has a right to demand sex.

Bad Santa

seamus wrote: »

Wasn't there another "study" released during the week which said that men who do more housework have sex more often?

More than likely the same study being reported with a different take as I must have seen this in every newspaper I read yesterday, all with somewhat of a different slant on it. What you probably saw was some akin to Esquire's slant on it telling guys to do more "masculine" jobs around the house if they wanted to get laid:

THE HOUSEWORK THAT GETS YOU LAID

Good news for the manly gentleman: A new study says that those who work the traditionally masculine jobs around their houses up their chances of having sex with their wives. There's an exchange, the researchers say. And it means about one-and-a-half times as much coitus.

Just so you have a baseline, here's the list of the female tasks (their definitions): preparing meals, washing dishes, cleaning the house, shopping, and laundry. Here are the male ones: outdoor work, fixing the car, paying bills, and driving.

Now, let's be clear: Not every woman is the same, so if you have a happily copulative marriage with somewhat reversed "traditional" gender roles, cool — rock it. (We personally think a man should at least be able to cook and cook damn well.) And if you're not having sex, there are plenty of other potential reasons why.

But for all those who feel both emasculated and sexless, intelligent men-need-to-be-men literature is growing nowadays. For example, a few years ago, an Atlantic essay — written by a recently divorced woman — summed up some women's feelings on the conflating gender roles: "[Modern women who need] to work, to parent, to housekeep, to be the ones who schedule 'date night,' only to be reprimanded in the home by male kitchen bitches, and then, in the bedroom, to be ignored—it’s a bum deal."

Yes, it is. Look, the really important thing is that to have more sex, you're going to need to get involved with the work at home (though this new study also says it benefits to still have the overall household scale tip toward women; take from that what you will). But either way, this is yet another argument against the stereotypical sandwich-demanding blubber-pile on the couch. No reward deserved there.

So when you get home, go shovel the snow. Go change the oil. Go pay the bills. It's your damn job. And it might just help get you and her laid more.

Esquire