not sure what to do

JillyQ

Hi I need some advise here. I meet this guy online a cpl of months ago. We have met face to face. He seems to blow hot & cold with me as in arranges to meet up then 90% of the time will pull out. We do live quiet a distance apart. Should i give him the benifit of the doubt. I have been asked out on another date by another guy who i met recently. Im certain i will go onit, sld i let the other guy know when i hear from him? I feel the 1st person has totally messed me around

Esoteric_

He cancels 90% of the time you're meant to meet up. I think it's a clear sign that he's just not into you.

Go on the other date. Don't tell the other guy, but I wouldn't be contacting him either, even if he texts/calls you.

CaraMay

He is a waste of time. Plenty more nice guys out there to spend time on

Meauldsegosha

The first man is messing you around and isn't interested. Go on the date with the other man and don't give the first man a second thought. I wouldn't contact him again.

Hardonraging

Treat em mean ... keep em keen ...

Ladies, a phrasing more of you need to learn, us boy's use it a lot, and in some case's we dont even realise it .. a little role reversal would do this chap the world of good me thinks.

RossFixxxed

Sounds like he's keeping you as backup and stringing you along in the meantime, in case he needs a girl to call on. Give the second guy a shot and cut contact with the first. Life's too short to be hanging off someone who isn't interested or at the very least isn't bothered.

Stavro Mueller

When you find yourself making excuses for why someone's not getting in contact, the writing's on the wall. If this guy was genuinely interested in you as a person rather than a glorified pen pal, he'd be making sure he got to see you more often.

Don't rule out the possibility of him having a wife or a girlfriend. That might be another explanation for the cancellations.

Merkin

JillyQ wrote: »

Hi I need some advise here. I meet this guy online a cpl of months ago. We have met face to face. He seems to blow hot & cold with me as in arranges to meet up then 90% of the time will pull out.

He's not blowing hot and cold. He's blowing a sharp NW icy cold gale. What appalling manners. And why on earth would you tolerate it? Delete his details, totally ignore any future correspondence from him and go and enjoy a date with this other person. As for explaining to this other numpty, you owe him the same courtesy he has afforded you thusfar which amounts to a big fat zero. Don't waste any more of your time and go and enjoy an actual date with someone normal.

JillyQ

Hi All

Sorry for not getting back sooner will be going on the date with Guy number 2 and the guy number 1 will find himself nice and politely left out in the cold.

Thank you all for your advise. I badly needed to have the rose tinted glasses removed from my eyes.

Jilly

RossFixxxed

JillyQ wrote: »

Hi All

Sorry for not getting back sooner will be going on the date with Guy number 2 and the guy number 1 will find himself nice and politely left out in the cold.

Thank you all for your advise. I badly needed to have the rose tinted glasses removed from my eyes.

Jilly

OOO a date, Jilly's got a boy... Sorry. Just to say best of luck with your date. Have a blast, I think you've made the right decision. A little rose tinting is good, but not too much or you'll trip over a jerk like the other guy!

JillyQ

RossFixxxed wrote: »

OOO a date, Jilly's got a boy... Sorry. Just to say best of luck with your date. Have a blast, I think you've made the right decision. A little rose tinting is good, but not too much or you'll trip over a jerk like the other guy!

Thanks Ross, that gave me a bit of a laugh lol