Go to stag do and not to wedding

thebourke

has anyone ever gone to a stag do and not gone to the wedding..iis this bad form?

jessei

hes your mate, ithink it d be ok, but tell him... (jsus weddings.....such bad parties)

ElleEm

It depends on your reasons for not going to the wedding.

I was once invited to the Hen party of an old friend, but not the wedding, which I thought was bad form.

thebourke

to be honest he is not really a close friend of mine...i just know him..

thebourke

i have never been a big fan of going to weddings..i only go to weddings of people i know very well....

ElleEm

thebourke wrote: »

to be honest he is not really a close friend of mine...i just know him..

I don'y understand why you would go to his Stag then, and not go the wedding (if you were invited).

thebourke

so better of not going to both then?

Bandana boy

I have done a couple of stags and not made the wedding ,make up an excuse for not being available on wedding date work trip family anniversary etc and enjoy the stag .

clint_silver

thebourke wrote: »

has anyone ever gone to a stag do and not gone to the wedding..iis this bad form?

do you mean you cant/dont want to go to the wedding or the groom hasnt invited you?

If youve been invited to the wedding and just cant or dont want to go to the wedding, make your excuses and let them know.
B&G will have a thousand things on, they wont be worried about 1 other person not coming. I wouldn't say its bad form, notwithstanding the reason that is.

average_runner

ElleEm wrote: »

It depends on your reasons for not going to the wedding.

I was once invited to the Hen party of an old friend, but not the wedding, which I thought was bad form.

Well maybe they couldn't afford any bigger of a wedding to have you there!

ElleEm

average_runner wrote: »

Well maybe they couldn't afford any bigger of a wedding to have you there!

Maybe, but the real issue transpired afterwards. Still bad form in my opinion.

OP, I don't think it's good manners to go to the stag and not go to the wedding just cos you don't like weddings. I would say don't go to either, but that is just me!

thebourke

but if i make excuses that i can't go to the stag do and again to the wedding...won't it look twice as bad?

movingsucks

I'd go to the stag if that's what you prefer. I had friends come to my hen who then couldn't make it to the wedding for whatever reason.

Asbury Park

I'd go to neither; wouldn't look great turning up at the stag but not the wedding. Okay most weddings are dull (very dull) but it is the wedding, rather than the stag, that is the event, supposedly

Sleepy

I've mates who can't make the wedding coming on the stag.

Would find it odd to invite someone to a stag that you weren't inviting to the wedding but nothing unusual in someone who can't make the wedding going to the stag.

Miguel_Sanchez

What about people having a very small wedding? Do they just have a tiny stag too or what's the story there?