What makes a guy notice a girl on a night out?

Auster23

Hi all,

Curious to get male and female opinions on this one.

I'm in my 30's, single and tend to go out quite a bit in Dublin. I know the pub/night club may not be an ideal spot to meet someone for the first time, but given the country we live in, it does happen quite a bit!

In the last few years I've noticed a huge increase in how glammed up girls get on a night out. Fake eyelashes, perfect hair, huge heels that I could never walk in and very short skirts. This is even in places that I would consider quite laid back like Whelan's or Hogan's.

They look great and fair play to them, but with all this glamour going on, how likely is a guy to notice a girl who isn't as done up, wearing jeans and nice top for example?

What do you think makes a guy notice a girl first? Is it what she's wearing, her face, hair or figure or a combination of all of them? Do guys notice what you're wearing that much if they're attracted to your face or body? Would they notice a girl wearing heels before one wearing flats?

Owryan

All about the smile . Some of those you describe have a smile you would only see at a beauty pageant . Looks as fake as their tan. In my (male) opinion.

RubyWoo83

Smile & confidence I think, you don't even have to be that attractive once you're confident!

Celly Smunt

Girls with something aren't afraid to be dressed down a little for me,most of the done up girls i see are just like clones of each other and don't interest me much.

Carson10

For me personally i think a "glamourous" girl on a nite-out is definitely more attractive to me. If a girl doesnt bother making an effort on a Sat nite then chances are shes not going to bother the rest of the week.

And when i say "glamourous" as the OP says. The girl can be big or small, when she makes an effort it says a lot for herself.

I know myself and any of my mates would 100% agree. If you want me to describe a nite club then here it is.

A nightclub is like a garage forecourt for men. They are looking for that car(girl) who fires them up. So therefore hes going to go for the nice looking car not the plain looking car down in the corner.

A jeans and nice top kind of girl is the girl you approach working in your local shop, therefore style doesnt come into the equation. Sat nite is the nite when both males and females parade their stuff. If you dont make the effort then your not in the race.

OP. Iam just saying how myself and my mates would look at girls in terms of approaching them. Not being ignorant or downing women. Thats how it is.

The guy needs something to tempt them to go and talk. Hes not going to go, she has lovely hair, lets go talk to her.

sozbox

I'd say it depends entirely on the type of guy you want to notice you, I'd have different answers depending.

ted1

A good smile and nice eyes. Good skin with little make up.

Daisy78

I think you need to dress in a way that you feel comfortable with. If you start wearing clothes with the sole intention if attracting the opposite sex then you can look awkward which can reduce your confidence and detract any potential suitors from approaching you. You also have to play on your strengths, I wouldn't count my smile as one of my attractive features and I can be a bit self conscious about it but I have nice eyes and good skin so il do my makeup to emphasize those features. As was pointed out to me in another forum not every guy goes for the fake tanned blonde wag type, horses for courses and all that!

sozbox

Daisy78 wrote: »

....not every guy goes for the fake tanned blonde wag type, horses for courses and all that!

This times a thousand. There are a lot of guys, myself included, who actually see this as a negative. For me, it's like the girl is only imitating a certain 'look' rather than trying to be individual and dress to suit herself, that usually gives me a hint to her personality.

Dress to your own style, smile, be friendly and approachable, but not like you're out solely looking for guys, just enjoy the company you're in and the guys will come.

Knockout_91

Daisy78 wrote: »

As was pointed out to me in another forum not every guy goes for the fake tanned blonde wag type, horses for courses and all that!

I think you should be more careful with your choice of wording as you are offending 50% of women there.

I have blonde hair. Does that make me a "fake wag type"? I don't wear a lot of make up on nights out and the foundation I do wear is the palest. Luckily I was blessed with very good skin so I don't need to cake myself.

I took great offence to your comment there. I know many brunettes who absolutely cake themselves and behave like morons on nights out. Hair colour has nothing to do with it.

cantdecide

My interest in speaking to women is inversely proportioned to the length of her skirt and quantity of make-up. It's mutual because they don't have any interest in speaking to me,either.

Give me a stylish, sensibly dressed lady with big lights behind the eyes any day. Darn it, give me a jeansy girl any day too!

Overheal

Confidence and Happiness

Daisy78

Knockout_91 wrote: »

I think you should be more careful with your choice of wording as you are offen

I have blonde hair. Does that make me a "fake wag type"?

I took great offence to your comment there. I know many brunettes who absolutely cake themselves and behave like morons on nights out. Hair colour has nothing to do with it.

If.you read my post you'll see I made reference to a post I made in another forum where I made a made reference to blonde haired woman receiving far more attention than dark haired girls or red haired girls on a night out. That in my view they are generally more attractive to men.This view was disputed by others and I was merely referring to that. I have no doubt that there as many brunette fake tanned wags out there too and I shouldn't have passed comment on a particular hair colour. No offence was intended. But that isn't the point of this thread really. It's whether men have a 'type' of woman in terms of who they will approach on a night out...

endacl

Auster23 wrote: »

Hi all,

Curious to get male and female opinions on this one.

I'm in my 30's, single and tend to go out quite a bit in Dublin. I know the pub/night club may not be an ideal spot to meet someone for the first time, but given the country we live in, it does happen quite a bit!

In the last few years I've noticed a huge increase in how glammed up girls get on a night out. Fake eyelashes, perfect hair, huge heels that I could never walk in and very short skirts. This is even in places that I would consider quite laid back like Whelan's or Hogan's.

They look great and fair play to them, but with all this glamour going on, how likely is a guy to notice a girl who isn't as done up, wearing jeans and nice top for example?

What do you think makes a guy notice a girl first? Is it what she's wearing, her face, hair or figure or a combination of all of them? Do guys notice what you're wearing that much if they're attracted to your face or body? Would they notice a girl wearing heels before one wearing flats?

Jeans and a nice top any day of the week for me Auster. I find the fake face, daft shoes and big hair a bit of a turn off. Actually, 'a bit of a turn' off is a mighty understatement.

Bright eyes and a smile for me. And the confidence not to need the uniform and warpaint. Makeup really works best when you don't notice it. On the shoes, bit of a heel under nice fitted jeans would draw my eye.

As an aside, wtf is the story with those short dresses that have the 'waistline' bit hoiked up to just under the boobs?

You can buy fashion, not style...

My two cents, fwiw.

Jebus. It sounds like I'm chatting you up! Best of luck with the hunt.

endacl

Knockout_91 wrote: »

I think you should be more careful with your choice of wording as you are offending 50% of women there.

I have blonde hair. Does that make me a "fake wag type"? I don't wear a lot of make up on nights out and the foundation I do wear is the palest. Luckily I was blessed with very good skin so I don't need to cake myself.

I took great offence to your comment there. I know many brunettes who absolutely cake themselves and behave like morons on nights out. Hair colour has nothing to do with it.

No matter what the lady looks like, flying of the handle and hypersensitivity would be another no-no for me.....

Lightbulb Sun

Knockout_91 wrote: »

I think you should be more careful with your choice of wording as you are offending 50% of women there.

I have blonde hair. Does that make me a "fake wag type"? I don't wear a lot of make up on nights out and the foundation I do wear is the palest. Luckily I was blessed with very good skin so I don't need to cake myself.

I took great offence to your comment there. I know many brunettes who absolutely cake themselves and behave like morons on nights out. Hair colour has nothing to do with it.

Not really. You're being overly sensitive. He's not narrowing down purely on hair colour.

Taltos

Auster23 - welcome to RI.
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As your thread does not appear to be seeking this I am closing it. Maybe consider one of the other forums here, please ensure you have fully read and understand their charters before opening a thread there.

Thanks
Taltos