Really like my nurse...

LegacyUser

Hi,
I'm 28 and I have a specialized nurse for a condition I have - it's only once every few months I need to see her or I can call at anytime if I have issues (nothing that serious in the sense that it affects my life dramatically - I don't need physical or social care)

Anyway I really like her - a lot. She is a few years older (early 30's - maybe 31, 32) and I think she may be available.

One issue immediately of importance is professional ethics but perhaps I could change nurse.
I'm not sure if this is a good thing or not but I made her blush when I complimented her on a piece of jewellery she was wearing. I asked her where she got it (she said a friend) and I said it was really nice - then blushed. Could this have embarrassed her in some way?

I asked her where she was from (before mentioning the jewellery) this and she asked me same). This could just as easily been normal rapport as again she is my nurse. I should mention that she is new and this is my second time meeting her.

Anyway, I'm wondering if I may have read the signs correctly and how I would go about asking her if she is interested. Again, I really like this girl and it doesn't happen often that I really like a girl - tend to be picky.

I'm really annoyed with myself too because I dragged myself out of bed that morning and could have looked better.

Thanks.

Neyite

Or maybe she blushed because she was deeply embarrassed because a patient was asking her personal questions while she is trying to do a professional job, which involves being nice to all her patients and putting them at ease during the appointment.

Its a bad idea to ask her out.

SunnyDub1

and that friend was probably her boyfriend :pac:

But in all seriousness, you mentioned she is only new which means she is probably being nice and friendly to all patient's to make a good impression, plus she would be putting her job at risk if she did have any intention of seeing you - which if I am being honest is not very likely.

Ask her out if you want to take the risk but honestly I just think you would be creating a really awkward situation for yourself.

tony81

I think it's quite common for guys to fancy a nurse who treats them.. But don't be that guy.
I think you embarrassed her by asking her personal questions and generally overstepping the mark. She's getting paid to treat you.

I know a doctor who gets regular visits from a patient and she really hates to hear he's in the waiting room. Occasionally he'll ask a personal question including "is that your car outside". Nothing threatening or intimidating, just uncomfortable.
Hopefully you see the similarities here. Stick to the weather if you want to make conversation.

She probably blushed because she likes or is going out with the friend who gave her the jewellery.

I'd advise you not to do anything about it, she's doing a job and even if she did like you it would still be a totally uncomfortable situation.

Merkin

reallylikegirl wrote: »

Anyway, I'm wondering if I may have read the signs correctly

What signs? Or have I missed something?

If I haven't and you suspect that her blushing may be a sign as well as asking you where you're from in response to your question being another sign then you are well off the mark. I would see this as mere politeness. Genuinely. If you want wait until the treatment is over and ask her out then fine but for now, professional constraints would mean she'd have to say no. And I really don't think she was giving you any signs to be honest, sorry.

LegacyUser

Ok, good job I asked here. Not great generally at reading signs.

Should I apologize to her to restore the professional relationship?

neemish

Wouldn't recommend apologising - just accept that she is a professional doing her job well. Treat her with respect, politeness etc. Reset the boundary in your own head and move on from there

Merkin

reallylikegirl wrote: »

Ok, good job I asked here. Not great generally at reading signs.

Should I apologize to her to restore the professional relationship?

For what? Admiring her jewelry? God no way, don't do that. Just be polite. It wouldn't be appropriate to say anything and may actually make the whole situation uncomfortable when it doesn't need to be.

Just go to your next consultation and be friendly and civil without asking her any questions or passing any comment on her appearance. I also wouldn't ask her out as it will just make your next visit there uncomfortable.

tony81

reallylikegirl wrote: »

Should I apologize to her to restore the professional relationship?

God no.

skyfall2012

She may be someone who blushes easily, because asking about a piece of jewellery is normal enough conversation or it may have been your body language that gave you away. If you only met her twice, and she is there as a professional, she couldn't allow herself to think about you in that way, it would be kind of creepy.

I have heard of people marrying their nurses, but that is after years of them being in each others lives and a very good friendship developing, which translated into a relationship.

LegacyUser

While I'm not a nurse, I have had patients compliment me in a flirty manner before, and I have to say it is the most awkward thing ever.
Sure I blushed but more so out of pure embarrassment than anything, the first time I just took it as a compliment or appreciation for the help I was providing.
But after the second, or third time it just made me uncomfortable. I think apologizing would only make things more awkward between you, its best to just forget about it and focus on your condition more than anything. Don't feel too bad about it either, she's not going to dislike you or anything but its best if you leave it.

While I "love" my patients and the people I help, I dont like them in that way. I just want to help them and improve their life anyway possible, I couldnt think of them in any other way.

Besides, as far as I'm aware, The Nursing Board of Ireland states that "any romantic relationship with a patient where a professional relationship also exists, is deemed as malpractice", and is grounds for discipline.

xzanti

People in the Medical Profession generally have a vocation for being kind and caring.. it's their job..

I always marvel at anyone who thinks they are 'in with a chance' with their Doctor/Nurse/Dentist etc... They have studied and aspired for years to get where they are and will lose their licence to practice, their lively hood and their reputation if they were to over step the line with a patient..

Daydream about them all you want.. but don't put your hand out to be slapped.

LegacyUser

Well, thanks for the help. I'm obviously clueless at this type of stuff.

Wish there was somewhere that you could seek advice like this on a lot of these type of issues.

Thanks again everyone.

looksee

reallylikegirl wrote: »

Well, thanks for the help. I'm obviously clueless at this type of stuff.

Wish there was somewhere that you could seek advice like this on a lot of these type of issues.

Thanks again everyone.

There is, you are here!