Sexual Issue

LegacyUser

Hi. I am a regular boards user just posting under an alias as this is a very sensitive issue to me personally and to be honest it's taken a lot of hesitation before actually posting this thread.

Basically myself and my girlfriend have been together over 3 years. We are perfectly happy in every way together except sexually we have always been frustrated. We are both each others first real relationship and our first sexual partners. We spend a lot of time on foreplay and just having fun, but once we get to the main act of sex that's where problems arise. Basically the moment we get going I find myself ejaculating prematurely, most times without even realising its happened. This is obviously proving very frustrating for my girlfriend and myself and to be honest it really doesn't help my self confidence.

I always assumed this was just a temporary issue, probably due to my own lack of sexual experience, but I assumed the more we kept at it, the issue would resolve itself. Sadly this has not been the case. Out of frustration I asked a doctor in passing during a medical check up, but his advice wasn't very helpful. He was suggesting to me Viagra but the idea of going on something like that in my early 20s is a bit of a put off, plus I don't feel Viagra will help solve the issue. He said it was probably just a temporary thing and left it at that.

So this leads us to where we are today, no improvement and becoming increasingly frustrated. Lately I have been considering seeing another medical professional but I'm afraid of it being a waste of time, just like the previous time. So I am just wondering if anyone can offer any advice on overcoming this issue? Any similar experiences, or methods recommended towards a resolution

Thanks in advance

Cupcake_Crisis

If you are orgasming without even noticing I would definitely seek further medical advice.

LegacyUser

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

If you are orgasming without even noticing I would definitely seek further medical advice.

Well it's not that it's completely without notice, it's kinda like we are still getting into position and it's just "oh **** it's gone already" before we even get going. Just realise that it's too late to stop it or even try prolong it by slowing down or whatever

Merkin

Do you masturbate regularly? If not you should as it will make you less inclined to blow your load immediately if it's a regular occurance.

There are also a number of techniques which can be used to stop this happening, Goggle is your friend.

LegacyUser

Merkin wrote: »

Do you masturbate regularly? If not you should as it will make you less inclined to blow your load immediately if it's a regular occurance.

There are also a number of techniques which can be used to stop this happening, Goggle is your friend.

I do on an at least once a week basis as that has been suggested on a lot of sites I checked out.

And yes I have googled techniques. Come across this like kegal exercises and just general breathing exercises. So far still no luck

saiint

ok heres a few helpfull tips

this is a very common issue(i wouldnt call it an issue) for most men

use condoms (if your not already using them) and get the less sensitive ones , these condoms reduce sensitivity in your glands theirfore able to lasting longer, or even get the extra strong condoms , both do quite well

drink , im not talking about getting wasted (although it helps) i dont know if this works for every lad but i know for meself, when im out drinking i find i can last nearly 2 hours without ejaculating sometimes i cant even ejaculate which makes the problem worse haha

pull and tug , think this is obvious what i mean, lets say you plan to have sex with your girlfriend when she comes over
if you do the dirty business with pam and her 5 friends before she comes over, right away you will last longer.


over time you'll eventually be able to last longer without any of these to help

for example last week me and my partner had sex 3 times in 2 days , took me ages to ejaculate , 2 days later second we started , it was over haha its natural your just arosed and to be honest , as you said you have foreplay
i bet you any money
next time you go to have sex with your girlfriend
skip the foreplay , or just have foreplay with her and then do the business and you will last longer

i think i remember reading some in an online doctor site i dont know if its true
but on average without condoms , drink substance or a little pull and tug before sex
the average male can only last 3minutes before ejaculating


im with my current partner 3years and i dont have this problem much anymore
but i did at the start but it goes after sometime on its own, the more sex you have the less sensitive your glands will be , i find if i dont have sex for more then a week im more then likely to pre ejaculate , reason why id have a sneaky pull and tug if it gets that long :L

also as my da says (creepy i know ) enjoy the sensitive while you can because when it goes , it goes and the problem will be on the other end of things haha

ibarelycare

I suggest masturbating more than once a week. You should also practice delaying orgasm while you're masturbating. Bring yourself close to the edge and then hold back, calm down, and start again. Do this repeatedly. You can get your girlfriend involved in this as well.

Would you consider buying a fleshlight? If you don't know what they are, they're basically sex toys for men, they have the shape and feel of a vagina and you have sex with them. They are very-well designed and are apparently great for helping to make yourself last longer.

kraggy

Once a week? I cannot imagine masturbating that seldomly. You should definitely masturbate more often.

Try masturbating once a day and crucially, when you do masturbate, bring yourself to within seconds of coming, leave it a few minutes, bring yourself close again, leave it a minute...do this every day.

Also, masturbate an hour or so before you next get with partner. That will definitely help too.

The more you masturbate, the more you learn to control your penis rather it controlling you.