Is this how it works??

1stDateNerves

Hi there, just looking for some opinions on this. My marriage ended 2 years ago and I havent gone back on the dating scene up to a few weeks ago when I met a lovely girl through a mutual friend. I'm extremely rusty at all of this as I had been with my ex wife for around 12 years. So I've met this girl twice in the past 2 weeks and we've been texting a lot. However we still havent kissed (other than the usual peck on the cheek when meeting up & saying goodnight)....If I'm being honest I'm not sure theres huge chemistry between us BUT we have organised to meet again this weekend. I suppose my question is is it possible that at our age (mid-30s) it might take a bit longer for things to happen (romantically) and should I stick with it (I do really like her), or should there have been some kissing etc by now...thanks

1stDateNerves

1stDateNerves wrote: »

Hi there, just looking for some opinions on this. My marriage ended 2 years ago and I havent gone back on the dating scene up to a few weeks ago when I met a lovely girl through a mutual friend. I'm extremely rusty at all of this as I had been with my ex wife for around 12 years. So I've met this girl twice in the past 2 weeks and we've been texting a lot. However we still havent kissed (other than the usual peck on the cheek when meeting up & saying goodnight)....If I'm being honest I'm not sure theres huge chemistry between us BUT we have organised to meet again this weekend. I suppose my question is is it possible that at our age (mid-30s) it might take a bit longer for things to happen (romantically) and should I stick with it (I do really like her), or should there have been some kissing etc by now...thanks

Its only been two weeks and you really like her. Its too early to be worrying about 'shoulds'.

Maybe go in for a bit of a snog on your next date and see if the chemistry ramps up a bit. Just enjoy yourself.

Merkin

I'd definitely be throwing the lips on her next time. If you continue to meet with no hint of their being an attraction it could descend into platonic territory before you know it. Kissing is also a great indication as to whether there IS chemistry. There is soooo much in a kiss and while you may not be sure of the level of chemistry now, you'll sure as hell know after a steamy snogging session!

CaraMay

I think date no3 is plenty of time for kissing. Try not to over think it and just enjoy.

miamee

CaraMay wrote: »

I think date no3 is plenty of time for kissing. Try not to over think it and just enjoy.

I agree with this. It's natural to be a little nervous, especially if this is the first time you have kissed someone new in a while but you'll know after a few seconds if there is a bit of chemistry between you both or not. Good luck!

1stDateNerves

Thanks for the replies guys, I do have a tendency to overthink things to be honest. Guess I'll just have to go for it